TS, if you wants to control everything that another person does be it men or women, you are only demonstrating that you are very very self center. Everything in this world evolved around you. You cannot accept anything that you feel not your liking.
If you don't change your way of looking at things and the way you treat a living things then I don't see anyone can help you. Both men and women don't appreciate you kind of character, they may love you as a friend nothing else.
Therefore you need to learn to love what other love and try not to put yourself ahead of others in whatever things that happened. At time you need to let others win.
Take Care.
