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Originally Posted by zan888
Bro, I agree with most of what you said.
All relationship are works in progress but if a relationship takes so much work w/o much progress then I guess we need to talk to the other person calmly and logically for amiable break, if that is possible. Breakups should not be nasty or a blame game. Should be nice nice and understanding. Easier said that done I guess?
Some relationships are so tiring, one wonders why bother carrying on? The pain more than the pleasure? I guess if one can see a rainbow at the end of the struggle, there is a hope there? Well all the best bro. Hope you find what you are looking for.
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Yup. Relationship is never as simple as what we see on tv dramas.
Most of the time, its not about 2 persons, but two villages (or communities) and the rest of the villagers have lots of influence. I myself am a victim of their influence.
Its tough to tell the other half not to heed their words. How not to? Worse is, when the rest of the village are politicians. :|
I am lost in this walk. Sometimes, just wish to sleep and not get up to face the realities. Very difficult to tell what is right. My SO may wish to continue, but my mind asks this tough question. Is it because she believes in this relationship? Or is it because sia suay no face, if break?
The crux of the problem lies in that everyone has their own goals and everyone thinks they are right. But, no one stops to think and ask what if whatever we believe was wrong in the first place? What if we take out what our friends and relatives have been saying to us, then what do we believe in?
The assumed obligations and duties just make all these relationships hard and difficult to maintain. Honestly, being alone still better. We all have to die alone someday, married or otherwise.