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Nothing amps up your sex life like competition. She feels complacent when she feels like she's got you by the balls.. Bring back that competition anxiety and she will become your little slut.

Things you can do.
1) Work out, dress better: Improve your appearance basically.
2) openly flirt with women (waitresses, colleagues) : calibrate this.
3) Have a life outside your marriage/family: pick up a hobby, a pursuit which allows you to focus inwards.

Most importantly: be unapologetically you, you do not need permission to be who you are, if you are a nerd by all means be the greatest fucking nerd to ever walk the planet. As a man, own your shit.

Only when you are a Man, can she finally relax to being a woman and thats when blowjobs in bed will start, a beginning to better things ahead.