Hi Bro! Thank you so much
for myself, i actually spoke to professionals ( i have friends in the marriage counselling line of work).
basically, before the solution was the same:
1) Try to be patient
2) try to be understanding
3) Try to help her cope with her feelings.
This was before i knew about the perimenopause issue.
Then after knowing about it, then they were the same:
1) Ask her to seek medical attention
2) Help her overcome this issue etc etc.
Fuck, the above are really text book examples and easiy said then done.
All solutions revolving around the men having to bend down, mentally and physically to cope with the women's emotions and all.
At this point in time, no possible for me cos then my health will go down ( my job is stressful as it is juggling travelling and demanding customers), my home affairs ( my domestics operations are also handled by me)
but having to deal with " feelings and emotions" and that those feelings and emotions are always varying according to situation. Apologies for the rankt.
Bro , also for your " gf went back to abusive spouse". This issue i researched early on in life ( i wasnt always a lady's man and often got the " you're too good to me")
Women find it a challenge to change a " bad boy" and find " excitment" in bad boys. This is a 10000% fact. If they are able to turn a bag boy into a good boy, it is a major mental achievement for them.
Now, what about good men ? Good men, are just " boring" to them. Good men, settle all their issues for them, pamper them and always try to find ways to make them happy.
But to these " modern" women, this is meaningless to them and they will always crave the " i can change a bad boy" challenge.
From my observations,
a) Traditional women ( basically those not spoilt by society, those whom are brought up to be good wifes/ mothers/ etc), those are pretty rare these days and these women will slave for their husbands
b) Modern women, must prove themselves in whatever they do ( the more educated they are, they more they must prove). As such, bad boys are the ultimate challenge to them.
So far, from my experience, one of the types of women who will cherish a good man are ex-esorts/ FL. They have sucked so much dick that they know the differencee between a man who will take care of them and a bad man.
BUt then FLs come with another bunch of occupational mental issues.
Wife and kids are out of town for vacation, took the opportunity to fly down one of my Russia chicks from phuket to spend time with me.
Rain is really messing things up..
Thank you guys are sharing here and letting me know i'm not alone in this mess.