Like what others have said, get married in singapore . Its much easier. GETTING MARRIED IN VIETNAM is a super chore that requires you to crack yr mind and pocket. Marriage agents make things easier for you, but please be reminded that the agents do not process if yr gal is from certain province. One of the province is my wife's province, BEN TRE. But if yr gal is from other province, then shouldn't be a problem.
You must do a search on the Singapore ROM database to prove that there's no record of you getting married in Singapore. As for informing Singapore consulate in Vietnam, there's actually no need to, as the consulate do not certify or verify any marriage documents nowadays.
I got married in Ben Tre Vietnam in 2003. Firstly, have to make appointment to fill in and submit the form with photographs and necessary documents i.e. yr passport (copies), yr spore ROM search result. Next, you are required to go to mental hospital in the city to go thru some test (actually nothing much, the silly doctor just asked me `are you really happy'). Next place to go is to send yr passport copy to Ministry of Foreign Affairs, if its HCM City, then its just next to Diamond Plaza) . This step is to register yrself with the vietnamese government. (after marriage, when u come in Vietnam again, the immigration system will have all yr details) Then wait for letter from province government for appointment. When appointment arrives, they will meet yr wife and you seperately. Main thing is to verify if two of you really got to know each other normally and not thru match making. (match making is illegal ) The officer will ask you where you meet yr wife and he/she will also ask yr wife the same question. So make sure answer is the same. After this appointment, submit the medical form and wait for next appointment. When marriage approved, they will send another letter to yr wife's address. Final appointment, sign on marriage book and take marriage certificate. Sounds easy right? but not as easy as it seems. If yr wife didn't bring the necessary documents for the appointment, the officers will ask you to go back and come back another day. I remember myself plying between Ben Tre and HCM City so many times till my driver also cannot tahan.
So if want to get married in Vietnam, engage the services of a marriage agent. Make yr life easier.
