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Originally Posted by ekemono
You are right bro. Let these words be understood clearly by bros who are planning to get married with a ex working viet gal.
Because of their limited education, their choice for high income jobs are almost zero. At most they can get is retail assitant like those at This Fashion, or production worker. But that is if she is versed with spoken Mandarin and some English in the first place.
In the past when they work in the night trade they can get at least 1.5 to 2K provided they must go hotel with customers. With that amount they can portion a good part of the $ to provide comfortably for their family. So after quitting and marrying SG men, that amount most likely stays the same. Like what bro singviet mentioned, it can come up to a few hundred.
Moreover, the mother-in-law and the rest WILL ALWAYS think that their SG son-in-law is rich, regardless if they are nice or bad people. So in short, we the husband cannot run away from this duty.
When we want to marry a ex working gal, a viet gal. Dun just think about the "love", the sex, the companionship. But think about her virtue, your financial capability; THINK REALITY.
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Thanks to all the bro! These are really good advises. I am able to provide for her family for a few hundred each month. But If she needs more than a thousand each month, then it is really bye bye. Not going to get myself troubled with money all my life. We have talked about it, she knows.
As for contacting clients again after marriage, well, I've thought of that too. It's all about trust, but of course, not blind trust. I am thinking of bringing her overseas with me which my work allows. That will definitely stop her from contacting them. I have spoken to her too, she has decided not to go out with customer from now on also. The thing is, whenever she goes out with customer now, she will call me to tell me so that i know. This is to let me know she is safe and what she is doing. It never felt good. So, if I ever know if she goes out again, then it's bye bye again. My friend told me, better to let a knife pierce through your heart once, then let it poke you a thousand times.
My girl never ask me for money after our love making session. It's just like when a girlfriend sleeps over at your place. Only when she has really no money even to buy the basic stuffs will she ask me for $100 when we meet. I still can manage with it. I just need to control my own finances which I am very poor in. To me, if my gal continue to ask me for money after every love making session, I will suspect it something else other than love. Try not giving her money, see if she kicks up a big fuss, or refuse to pick up your calls again.