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Thai Freelancer Prostitutes and Girlfriends

Profile of a Typical Prostitute

Approximately two-thirds of foreigners-oriented prostitutes probably have nearly all of the following in common:

* Born and grew up in Isaan - the poor northeast
* Have the standard 6 years of government-funded education (or less)
* Has worked on a family rice farm during the planting and harvesting periods
* Previously worked in difficult and low wage jobs (e.g, $100/month, 60 hours/week), e.g., textile factory, helper of a street food vendor, etc., during non-planting/non-harvesting time
* Didn't go to entertainment places until entering prostitution
* Brought in by a trusted friend, eased into prostitution slowly but now easily goes with men
* Content with their current occupation, having lots of fun hanging out with their friends in a fairly stimulating environment with money
* Still doesn't drink alcohol or do drugs
* Brings money to their provincial home regularly
* Family doesn't know they work as a prostitute (until they bring a farang home)
* Lacks self-discipline when it comes to developing skills useful for other work
* Has very simple outlook on life -- likes to be with friends (they tend to be in groups in the bars), eat Isaan food, wake up late
* Have become skilled to some extent at "entertaining" foreign men



More than half have these additional traits:

* Offspring with a deadbeat Thai father (ex-boyfriend or ex-husband), which adds financial pressure
* Offspring being raised by parents in province, not Bangkok
* Significantly greater than average monetary pressures from home, e.g., for supporting siblings and parents



Typical day in the life of a Thai prostitute:

* Lives in an apartment building populated with other prostitutes
* Wakes up late
* Watches TV a few hours
* Eats a noodle pack if too lazy to go out
* Plays cards and gambles with their friends (the harder core ones tend to be gamblers)
* Eats some tasty, spicy Isaan food on the street or near the bar, with friends
* Takes a motorcycle taxi or regular taxi to their go-go or freelance bar for about 50-100 baht (rather than the 4 baht bus going the same way)
* Gets a customer... sometimes more than one per nite
* Takes a taxi home



Day after day after day ... except the times they go on holidays with farangs, and usually the farang does all the work in making all transport, hotel and other arrangements, with them in tow as companion and entertainer. They have a good time, and the farang has sex but often send them back home prematurely and opts off for other samples of the local flesh.

Some guys try to make a bargirl into a girlfriend. The ones who are "successful" tended to get the lady within the first month or so of her entering the scene. After that, it's usually too late. The reasons for this are discussed later on this page. First, I'll simply list the most commonly heard complaints below.
Problems with ex-prostitute girlfriends


The problems usually reported with ex-prostitute or prostitute girlfriends are the following:

* Lazy -- don't do housework, cook for the husband, clean up after themself, etc.
* Unfaithful
* Dishonest when it comes to where they are and what they're doing (though often they are honest at first, then dishonest after the boyfriend expresses anger)
* Habitually consume large sums of money (compared to girls with no background in prostitution)
* Over time, fail to acquire additional skills (cooking, driving, business) that could help in the relationship
* If sent to school, skip classes
* If asked to help with the farang's business, do less than the minimum of acceptability
* Irresponsible



Successful relationships, especially in terms of faithfulness, often occur with Thai girls who are made girlfriends within the first month of entering the business. Often, the boyfriend is the first or one of the first customers, and they spend some time in the scene before they get up the nerve to go with a man. Their first man is usually carefully selected. There are instinctual reasons that ladies tend to bond with the first man they have sex with or one of the first decent men.

It is generally said that a girl is not girlfriend or marriage material after she's been in the business from one to three months, unless, of course, you don't expect a monogamous or longterm relationship.

While many people have concluded that prostitution changes a woman significantly, i.e., makes them a certain way, I don't think that's the entire picture. You have to also look at all the women who come into the business and leave it permanently within the first one to three months, leaving behind the ones who have psychologies which make them more inclined to take on prostitution as a way of life. Once given the opportunity, and surrounded by a peer group seasoned in the occupation (often friends from childhood who are influential, close and trusted), the way of life has been opened up to them, and they undergo "bargirl training". If they choose to stick with it...

Those who pass this decision point, and pass their first customer or few customers ready for more, will change from what they would be like otherwise, especially if they haven't had a prior quality relationship with a Thai boyfriend, in that it will result in the development of a kind of mindset towards relationships with men that will be quite different from non-prostitutes, and their sexual development (if it hasn't been formed already in a previous longterm relationship with a boyfriend) will also be corrupted (usually resulting in an inability to have true sexual gratification, i.e., orgasm with a man). Their experiences in prostitution, combined with training from their peers, will change them.

After a prostitute has been with a few men and decided to stick with the business, the frequency that they are willing to go out with additional men will skyrocket, usually. They get hardened and "addicted to the hunt", so that even after they have a boyfriend willing to support them financially, they will tend to go back to the scene when given a chance. Remarkably, they develop the traits of many of the sexually predatory men on the scene.

There is a high correlation between the tendency to gamble and the tendency for promiscuous prostitution. Ladies who gamble are usually the most promiscuous prostitutes. Gambling is a sensational addiction to thrills, and a costly one in many ways. It is also a desire to make money quickly without working for it.