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Originally Posted by SingViet
The thing is , marriage nowadays is not as stable as those of our parents or grandparents. Be it a singaporean or vietnamese you are marrying, gals nowadays can walk out of a marriage easily. This also apply to some guys too. marriage takes a lot of tender , loving , care, endurance, patience and financial power to substain. You need to be able to support your wife and maybe your kids daily expenses. Its not just the daily 3 meals they sought after, but its , to a certain extend, lifestyle that is comparable with her friends in Singapore. Our viet gals like to gossip and compare, and if her viet friend in singapore can lead a better life than her, she will want you to do something about it. Once you have kids, its more money spinning things you need to handle. From baby clothes, diapers, milk powder for the initial few years, to shopping, school fees and so on.... if you are on a normal fixed monthly salary, you may find it tough.
But of course, there are some bros with viet wives that may disagree with my statement, claiming truthfully that their viet spouse is happy with the little salary that they bring in monthly. But let's be truthful enuff, even the singapore man is not happy with his own income, how will the spouse? Singapore is a place where majority of us are stressed daily by the overflowing bills and ever rising price level.
So for bros who are not married yet, don't take marriage like a game. It's never a game. Its a game of responsbilities that bring some joy and happiness. If you marry because of sex, then forget it. Better pay , fuck and forget.c  |
Bro SingViet,
The way you describe a vn gal is no difference for sillypore gals. If a vn gal compare and gossip alot about lifestyle in sillypore, they are same as sillypore gals already. Probably only city gals do that.
A good vn gal will think for you 1st rather then comparing with their friends. If their friends live in condo, then I buy condo for her? If their friends hubby got big cars and I take MRT, does it mean she will demand me to have a car. Such girls can throw aside liao.
You stress too much about $$$ involving in marriage and so on...
drawing fixed monthly salary may be tough to take care a family... but if having a happy marriage and living within one means, everything will be fine even eating porridge daily. Some guys draw fix monthly salary of 10K won't find it tough mah.
not that singapore man is not happy with his own income. but everyone is not happy the money is never enuff. We see that you are rich, but you never think so and you are still working and trying to earn more. Money is never enuff, so not happy lor.
I only agree that you say that marriage is about responsibility. But responsibility is not about $$$. Responsibility is about giving up everything and start thinking of family as 1st priority. The only worry for me is that i may get too used to my current lifestyle and still carry on after marriage.