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Originally Posted by dodgyboi69
Whoa! 4 years! How do you keep the relationship going? You keep going to hcm every other month? How bout the language and cultural differences? How do you tackle all those problem?
Trust, how do you know that she's after your love and not your money?
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There are alot doubts and queries in the initial phase of my relationship. I
never confront her, let her has the space to bluff me. I am always thinking that she has her reason to do that. Through this forum and meeting up bros here give me alot insight about the life in HCMC.
After I find out more details and facts. I will tell my girlfriend that I actually know the truth but will wait for her to tell me personally. I always tell her that a when a person tells a lie, he/she will tells 10 lies to cover it, then tells 100 lies to cover the 10 lies. I tell her she will be tired of it. One fine day she tell me everything on her own and she gain my trust from that day onwards.
From the day i know her, I have been going to HCMC many times.. 20 over times.
When I get to know her, we talk our own language with hand signal. Then I use dictionary. I go for course and had my further learning in JC/GL with my cheong kakis. I do not know about culturer difference. To me, they are the same as chinese. Maybe I am a person who can adapt anywhere easily. She is a catholic and I am a buddhist. Sometimes people has arguement over religion. But we are open, we go both church and temple.
If you keep thinking that the vietnam girl is after your money... than you will always have doubts about her. My girlfriend use to have some $ problem in her family. I help her to a certain extend w/o thinking that she is after my money.
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Originally Posted by dodgyboi69
Yes, I do agree with you that JC girls and non WL Vietnamese girls can not be put into the same category. It kinds of pisses me off when my people stereotype them as money sucking vampires and look at them as if they're just a piece of meat thus not respecting them as a lady..
I just want to know how to identify between a good seed or a bad seed. J just don want to waste my time and effort into a lady only to find out that she is a bad seed!
Personally, I think she's a gem.
The only thing that bothers me is that she doesn't really reply to my Random "how are you? I miss you" SMS.
She will take about a day to do that.
She'll SMS me like once in every 3 or 4 days.
I was thinking that maybe it's expensive for her to SMS me every night since she only earns like 3 to 4 mil VND a month and still have to support family.
Should I invest time and effort in her?
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I know my girlfriend in JC... she is a good girl.
bro, when you are going after any girls, you got to waste some time and effort to find out. You cannot tell straightaway. Furthermore a long distance relationship takes more time and effort. If you like her, no matter how long also worth. A bad seed can be polished into a good seed if you know how to.
So you contact her once every 3 or 4 days.... I do my reporting DAILY since day 1.