There are much more Singaporean guys got cheated by Viet VB than the other way round. The thing is, abortion to the viet gals, is like eating COM TAM and drinking COCA. So there's no complaining about getting pregnant when they have chosen to be in this line. Even if pregnant, i am sure most of them are not sure who is the real father, so most of the time, they will just grab one `ready' one to carry the responsiblities. So if fellow bros get into such situation, the best is to carry out a DNA test upon the birth of the child to ascertain the identity of the child before you spend `bombs' to feed and educate someone else's child.
As for taking money from singaporean husband, there's 101 reasons to take money from Singaporean husband. Singaporean husbands should also manage the Viet spouse's expectations. Show them your pay slip and the many other BILLs to pay each month, do a calculation to show them. There's no need to be a hero, keep quiet and keep fulfilling their wants, and finally, find yourself becoming ridden by lots of debts. Why should you borrow money to give to them to enjoy? They enjoy there in VN and you slog like a dog here. I let my wife know how much i earn each month, what are the bills to pay and how much we can save. I have my own account, my wife has hers also and we also have a joint account. All the balances are clear to avoid misunderstanding. When my wife signs her VISA supplementary card, she will let me know what she signed for and how much. But she tries her best not to use the VISA and most of the time, she will use cash or NETS.
So communication is very important, especially these Viet Spouse are not too familiar with how things operate here. It will take time for them to understand, but for sure they will try to understand if they really love you and care for you and the kids.
