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Originally Posted by vietboy
Dun quite understand yur question.
But i assumed that u r asking whether Viet spouses dont want to work even though they r allowed to, am i rite?
If yes, why wouldn't they work even though they r allowed to? Unless they have the thinking of being a tai-tai here after marriage. So far only 2 of the viet gals that i know who r married here r not working saying it their husband that dun allow them to work.
Here is my 2 dongs: if its the wife who dun wanna work, this said so much about that person. If its the husband who dun allow them to work, its either he is rich, or he is selfish. Its like marrying a "maid cum child bearing machine" lock her up in the house to cook n do chores for the guy n let him f end of the day.
By going to work, she wont feel bored at hm, can contribute to family income n savings for future child, house, etc. also the wife can learn more new things about living life in singapore. Yes, she is vietnamese, but she is still human being. We as human beings are social animals, we need interaction and communication.
Above are just my 2 dongs. No offence intended to anyone.  |
I kind of agree and also disagree with you on this bro. But it all voice down to whether you have kids or not. Before having kids, what you syggested about working is good and recommended. But after having kids, it may be a different story.You will need someone to take care of the kid, unless your mother is willing to help, or else, your wife will have to do the work. If wife works and mother don't help, then employ a maid for $450 (maid salary) + $170 (govt tax) + food ? doesn't make much sense right?
As for interaction, its good to let your wife have some friends. some locals and some viets. My wife has some viet friends, some china friends and some local friends. Some friends will be good for her, but too many also bring lots of trouble and gossips.