Pregnant??

[Devil4U]

Hey...
My gf get very worried recently. Her period is not coming. And this is the 4th day late. According to her, she got regular period and is only late within 3 days. We had sex last month on quite regular basis. All sex are with condom coz i don want to risk for unplanned pregnancy. Im also really careful, i even wash hand when i wanna change condom..
She is worried so much and i told her not to....she even hate me and said next time don want sex liao. I told her to get a test kits. But she told me its disgracefully to do the test. Sianzzz
Wonder how late can a period get and what to do as a bf now?

[fiendster]

Hmmm, bro put down the MCP mindset and get a test kit from guardian on her behalf. She will be appreciated as always put yourself into her shoes.

Trust me be responsible and do the act since she not comfortable getting one on her own.

Regards,
fiendster
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[babyrex16]

Hey Mate, I totally agree with Bro Fiendster. You two have went through Magical moments together.. So now when she's in this shape. I feel that it's only right for you as her Boyfriend to stand up and get tings right! Get her a Test kit and walk through the problems with her together ya!! All The Best!!

[yangguo]

There are 10 reasons why her periods is late:

1. Stress
Stress can affect many things in our lives, including periods. Sometimes we're so stressed out that our body decreases the amount of a hormone (GnRH), which causes women to not ovulate or menstruate. Working with your doctor or midwife can help to figure out what is needed to do to relax and get back on schedule.

2. Illness
A sudden, short illness or even a longer illness can cause her periods to be delayed. This is usually temporary.

3. Change in Schedules
Changing schedules can really throw off your body clock. This is particularly true if you go from days to nights at work or vice versa.

4. Change in Medications
Perhaps she is trying a new medication and a delayed or absent period is the cause. Be sure to talk to the doctor or midwife about this side effect. It is very common with some methods of birth control.

5. Being Overweight
Carrying around too much weight can hormonally shift her cycles and even stop them. Most women will see a return to normal cycles and fertility with the loss of some weight.

6. Being Underweight
If a woman does not have enough body fat, she will not have regular periods, sometimes it can even cause her periods to stop all together. This is called amenorrhea. Typically a weight gain will help her have her periods return. This is a frequent cause of a missed period in women who work out to an extreme or are professional athletes.

7. Miscalculation
The menstrual cycle varies from woman to woman. While we say that the average menstrual cycle is 28 days long, that is not true for everyone. Sometimes her period is believed to be late when in actual fact she has simply miscalculated.

8. Peri-Menopause
Peri-menopause is the period of time where she is transitioning from reproductive age to a non-reproductive age. Her periods may be lighter, heavier, more frequent or less frequent - but mostly just not normal.

9. Menopause
Menopause is when she has reached the point in her life where she will no longer ovulate or menstruate. Menopause can be a natural life event or may happen surgically through hysterectomy or through chemical such as chemotherapies.

10. Pregnancy
Yes, her missed period might be because she is pregnant! A simple pregnancy test can usually help you determine if she has missed her period because she are pregnant.

Hope the above helps..

[Devil4U]

the problem is she don want to do the test. She finds it disgraceful...Don know whats her reason. She said don want to have sex anymore. Anw, im her first to take that precious away from her.
I will be responsible.
But how late can a period be? 1 week?

[Xgenre]

How old are you guys? Sounds quite young. For young girls, the period can vary from time to time. One of my ex-gf's period can be 2 weeks late. Stress is a funny thing. It delays the period. So stress over a later period can actually delay it further. Actually, from my own observation, sex helps regulate the period. So you might want to consider sex, although this is probably not on your mind now.

If you can't convince her to take a test, then you got to try your best to take her mind off this topic. Right now, every passing day without her period will bring her more depression. Your job now is to bring her out, do things together, watch a movie etc... Don't make her have free time to think about it. Don't get suicidal over a late period.

[SamSeng79]

Just bring her to a doctor to confirm.. No point playing the guess game..

[Devil4U]

Originally Posted by Xgenre

How old are you guys? Sounds quite young. For young girls, the period can vary from time to time. One of my ex-gf's period can be 2 weeks late. Stress is a funny thing. It delays the period. So stress over a later period can actually delay it further. Actually, from my own observation, sex helps regulate the period. So you might want to consider sex, although this is probably not on your mind now.

If you can't convince her to take a test, then you got to try your best to take her mind off this topic. Right now, every passing day without her period will bring her more depression. Your job now is to bring her out, do things together, watch a movie etc... Don't make her have free time to think about it. Don't get suicidal over a late period.

hi bro, thanks for ur advice. we are adults not the young girl u are talking about. Just that if pregnancy comes, both of us are not prepared for it. Now she even wants to talk abt abortion. OMG...

Hopefully is due to stress...

[Xgenre]

Originally Posted by Devil4U

Hopefully is due to stress...

Now is the time for you to stand up as a man. Go comfort her. Reassure her that whatever happens, she is not alone. You will be a responsible guy, abortion or not. Otherwise, everyday her menses never come, everyday she will get worse. Talk about abortion now, maybe talk about marriage tomorrow.

The worst thing is she may be so depressed she tells both sets of parents about this. Get everyone talking about the idea of marriage and then her menses come. If this ever happens, you will find it awkward whenever you meet her parents.

[Big Sexy]

marry her.
there is no point in having the baby if either one of you is not going to take up responsibilities

Originally Posted by Devil4U

what to do as a bf now?

[fiendster]

Hi TS, by the way u were describing seems that you guys are really young, maybe my guess < 21 years old. Only talk about marriage commitment when you have a stable job enough to take care of your loved ones and family commitment else everything will be a mess in each other life when finances are not in control, ie. if you are still a student or pending for NS.

Just sharing my thoughts, no offense. Emotionally be prepared to take responsibility does not mean in real fact one is prepared. Do calculate the finances well and think twice before doing raw if this time she is negative for pregnancy test.


Regards,
fiendster

[Big Sexy]

mate... read his post again..
they didn't do raw and TS has taken the necessary precautions.
however your point on thinking twice before doing raw is a good one..

Originally Posted by fiendster

think twice before doing raw if this time she is negative for pregnancy test.
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Originally Posted by Devil4U

hi bro, thanks for ur advice. we are adults not the young girl u are talking about. Just that if pregnancy comes, both of us are not prepared for it. Now she even wants to talk abt abortion. OMG...

Hopefully is due to stress...

TS you mentioned you always puts on a CD ...

And she is talking abt abortion ... Sorry dont get me wrong ... but do you smell something ???


Anyway from your 1st post it is only 5 days late ... alamah common lah ... But if she is so............... scare.

Die die ask her to go GP for (errrr... what huh, cant remember) to induce the period to come. Then everything will settle liao

[Devil4U]

Her parents are quite conservative, by telling her parents that, she is sure gonna get killed. Marriage is totally out becoz of family and religion. She is worried and regret abt what we have done.

Ya..i put cd everytime we did. She did nt even request it, i could have done it raw but i didnt coz i am still rational abt the consequences.

5 days late is common ah? Ok...good...I feel so damn guilty now. She is throwing her temper and all now. I have to take everything in silent and tell her everything is ok...One thing is she don have irregular period b4.

"induce the period to come" whats this?? I want to bring her to GP but she is scared. She wanna wait a few more days to see how. Please wish me luck.

[Xgenre]

Looking at your past posts, are you Malaysian (Johorean)? From a small town in Johor? If my guesses are correct, maybe part of the issue here is maybe Malaysian girls are more conservative? Especially in small towns where people tend to know one another. You bring her to a clinic for pregnancy tests, the nurses might gossip till the whole town knows? Tell us more about your background and gf lar. She seems ignorant and panicky.

You better wear cap in future too. You got chiong commercial sex right? Don't pass anything to her.