Normal for sex drive to dwindle with wife/long gf?

[shawnanderson]

My gf is pretty. Sex with her in the first 2 years was awesome.

But now.. I have to fantasize sex with other gals or other sexual fantasy while having sex with her to maintain the erection and sex drive...

I feel bad about it...

Recently, with the increase in work stress... cannot even fantasize properly... worse...

Any bros with such experiences? How will you deal with it?

[BTech]

Originally Posted by shawnanderson

My gf is pretty. Sex with her in the first 2 years was awesome.

But now.. I have to fantasize sex with other gals or other sexual fantasy while having sex with her to maintain the erection and sex drive...

I feel bad about it...

Recently, with the increase in work stress... cannot even fantasize properly... worse...

Any bros with such experiences? How will you deal with it?

How pretty is your gf ??

Got picture?

[otamay]

Maybe s threesome session helps. Suggest MMF , I don't mind to volunteer.

[ItsEsther]

I think thats quite common.

I'm a lady and that happens to me too. During the start of the rs, just a slight touch from him can get me turned on and wet, always wanting for more. Been only half a year now, no matter how hard he rub my clit, it can barely get wet and the feel isnt there. All the time while we are doing, I am secretly hoping he will cum now, get done and over with

[yangyang77]

Originally Posted by ItsEsther

I think thats quite common.

I'm a lady and that happens to me too. During the start of the rs, just a slight touch from him can get me turned on and wet, always wanting for more. Been only half a year now, no matter how hard he rub my clit, it can barely get wet and the feel isnt there. All the time while we are doing, I am secretly hoping he will cum now, get done and over with

This is bad..

[MoeLanYong]

Originally Posted by shawnanderson

My gf is pretty. Sex with her in the first 2 years was awesome.

But now.. I have to fantasize sex with other gals or other sexual fantasy while having sex with her to maintain the erection and sex drive...

I feel bad about it...

Recently, with the increase in work stress... cannot even fantasize properly... worse...

Any bros with such experiences? How will you deal with it?

And you are not even married yet. Geez. But, yea, its common. Explore things like EIP, outdoor sex etc. And let your fantasies be just fantasies. You have a choice not to execute them.

[maxman]

Originally Posted by shawnanderson

My gf is pretty. Sex with her in the first 2 years was awesome.

But now.. I have to fantasize sex with other gals or other sexual fantasy while having sex with her to maintain the erection and sex drive...

I feel bad about it...

Recently, with the increase in work stress... cannot even fantasize properly... worse...

Any bros with such experiences? How will you deal with it?

It is normal for feelings of attraction and hence sex drive to wane after the first 12-24 months. Chemicals released in our brains give us that feeling of love and lust but this release does not last beyond 24 months. After the chemical high in your brain has passed, you feel that the attraction has subsided.

Even for women, their sexual desire wanes.

Being in a long-term relationship kills sex drive of women
http://www.ibtimes.co.uk/being-long-...-women-1592608

Women who are in a long-term relationship are more likely to experience a decrease in sexual desire, scientists have said. Changes in relationship status were found to affect several different sexual functions, but a libido decline after spending years with the same person was the most pronounced trend overall.

[nuclearkid]

Originally Posted by ItsEsther

I think thats quite common.

I'm a lady and that happens to me too. During the start of the rs, just a slight touch from him can get me turned on and wet, always wanting for more. Been only half a year now, no matter how hard he rub my clit, it can barely get wet and the feel isnt there. All the time while we are doing, I am secretly hoping he will cum now, get done and over with

You have to take it easy pleasuring yourself. Too much wanking retards one's libido.

[lancerlution2]

Originally Posted by ItsEsther

I think thats quite common.

I'm a lady and that happens to me too. During the start of the rs, just a slight touch from him can get me turned on and wet, always wanting for more. Been only half a year now, no matter how hard he rub my clit, it can barely get wet and the feel isnt there. All the time while we are doing, I am secretly hoping he will cum now, get done and over with

Gosh hmmmm I think u or those alike including myself need to explore new things in life, like going to nude beaches, doing in public discreetly, going out braless/pantyless, anal sex, or even to the extent soft swing in a nude resort. It all depends where your threshold is and must sit down and discuss with your partner.

[cunthammer]

I guess it's common for sex drive to reduce as time goes by. For me, a recent increase in the intake of male specific vitamins and exercise has led to an increase in sex drive.

It's almost like being a teen all over again. So, vitamins and exercise definitely help.

[cowboy69]

Originally Posted by lancerlution2

Gosh hmmmm I think u or those alike including myself need to explore new things in life, like going to nude beaches, doing in public discreetly, going out braless/pantyless, anal sex, or even to the extent soft swing in a nude resort. It all depends where your threshold is and must sit down and discuss with your partner.

In my case, whenever i have sex with new girl, i always cummed very fast. But with my wifey, i can tahan longer due to familiarity. However, i still enjoy sex very much with my wife as my wife is very adventurous even at late 30s. She will blow me when i am driving, sometimes we will have quicky in the office carpark during lunch time, she will be happy to go panty-less when i find her sexy in office suit or dinner gown.

Occassionally, I will have to "eat-out" to have some spice to my sex life. I don't think my wife is eating out as she does enjoy alot of our sex but i don't mind she does it. I did try to get her to go swinging but she is totally against the idea. Though she is horny but she is still conservative in her thinking.

Now we are trying to get a chance to do outdoor sex, real outdoor.

[conquer]

Originally Posted by shawnanderson

My gf is pretty. Sex with her in the first 2 years was awesome.

But now.. I have to fantasize sex with other gals or other sexual fantasy while having sex with her to maintain the erection and sex drive...

I feel bad about it...

To make yourself feel better, fantasize your girlfriend next time when you have sex with other women.

[kunya]

Originally Posted by cowboy69

In my case, whenever i have sex with new girl, i always cummed very fast. But with my wifey, i can tahan longer due to familiarity. However, i still enjoy sex very much with my wife as my wife is very adventurous even at late 30s. She will blow me when i am driving, sometimes we will have quicky in the office carpark during lunch time, she will be happy to go panty-less when i find her sexy in office suit or dinner gown.

Occassionally, I will have to "eat-out" to have some spice to my sex life. I don't think my wife is eating out as she does enjoy alot of our sex but i don't mind she does it. I did try to get her to go swinging but she is totally against the idea. Though she is horny but she is still conservative in her thinking.

Now we are trying to get a chance to do outdoor sex, real outdoor.

For her to be adventurous at this age is good enough

[Mooning]

Originally Posted by kunya

For her to be adventurous at this age is good enough

I think so too

[twinresist2]

Originally Posted by ItsEsther

I think thats quite common.

I'm a lady and that happens to me too. During the start of the rs, just a slight touch from him can get me turned on and wet, always wanting for more. Been only half a year now, no matter how hard he rub my clit, it can barely get wet and the feel isnt there. All the time while we are doing, I am secretly hoping he will cum now, get done and over with

Is it because of your feelings for him have die down or just because sex is a routine?