Married for 5 years, but sex is getting very much lesser

[FamaSutra]

so recently a year ago when my second kid came along, sex really dwindled to once or twice a month and I am starting to feel damn super frickin sian. its always so tiring, no time to wash the dishes etc... where got time for sex?

lagi Best is I everyday chiong sales for the family, my wife self snook and say things like "afraid i will go fool around outside because i am always on the go since she cannot give me sex".. which really pisses me off to hear this, because i did not fool around.

both of us are working, and i have been using apps previously but realised the ROI is super not worth and the time and effort taken is really super dang long. until a friend intro about GL and FL and all, that its safe (GL).. have not tried GL yet, but super urge to do so.

once she caught me surfing some porn and it became a big hoohaa gotta deal with much drama.. she cry and all..

went for MLs twice only and on the second time i fucked her and was super worried the next few weeks. worried about passing std to kids especially.

anyway, any bros here same situation as me?

how do u cope?

my reasoning is that, if wife cant give, i pay for a GL service, its not cheating isnt it? and I am super sex addicted.. daily think about it.. go to office see so many OLs and ladies but can only see, lol. tried most ways except GL for now and really wanna explore more.. the other only thing that is holding me back is the fear of STDs.

really is 生不如死 now....

[hehfun]

TS, you are not alone in this situation.

First of all, it is a norm, build in our DNA for men, males to have sexual desires
even when we are in the old age. Women don't/ refuse to... understand that.

1. Paying for sexual service is not cheating on your wife,
you are paying... paying to relief your sexual needs.
*Unless you are falling for the WL.
*Breaking up your family for the WL.
*Burning your pocket too much on the WLs services.

2. Super sex addicted...
if you are not having sex often... I don't think you are sex addicted.

3. "... go to office see so many OLs and ladies but can only see, lol. tried most ways ... "
Could you elaborate on this.
If you mean looking at them brings up you sexual desires, it's a norm for men.

4. GL and STDs.
Please remember to use condoms for safe sex.
Visit those houses permitted by the law.
Prostitutes are required to undergo frequent health checks for STDs
and must carry a current Doctors certificate to show they are clean.

*Don't go for freelancers if you are not sure.
You can read/research more on GL safe sex practice.
Please remember to use condoms for safe sex.

If you think your wife is suspecting something,
cease all the ECActivities.

Hope this helps.

[larue]

I had the same reaction from my ex Wife when it came to porn a long time ago.

I wish there was some easy answer to it, like try to reason with her. Yeah right....

It was only much later that she became much more ‘receptive’ when she found out about my indiscretion. For me it was much too late by that time, I hope it won’t be for you because you clearly love your wife and kids.

I wish there was an easy solution for you. But the truth, as it always has been is that it takes two hands to clap.

[fattybonk]

TS before thinking of going down to GL or FL route...maybe you can read at this thread if you have not :

https://sgsbf.social/showthread.php?t=743370

Many bro in same situation as you and so am I.

5 years of marriage is considered quite 'new; and still need to 'adjust' to one another wants and needs.

Have a talk to your wife about your needs and also need to address what is her issue of not wanting to have sex...try to work out some ways...It's not easy and I'm married for more than 10 years still working on it...

[larue]

Originally Posted by fattybonk

Have a talk to your wife about your needs and also need to address what is her issue of not wanting to have sex....

Very good, he should say what exactly?

[MoJoe313]

TS,
Join 200 brothers pour out similar sorrows.

https://sgsbf.social/showthread.php?t=710559

Oh, and my condolences

[acidicavex]

My condolence to your Sex life you want the no long term handling process than go FL or GL but be aware it can get addictive if you do not know how to control. You might find you bank acct lesser money well if your wife doesn't check that and you are comfy than why not outsource? Don't condone outsourcing but well we are men and if we have needs that the way out.

Rules always always wear protection don't let little bro rule. Always stay clear deed done happy leave.

[SerflySGR]

Originally Posted by FamaSutra

so recently a year ago when my second kid came along, sex really dwindled to once or twice a month and I am starting to feel damn super frickin sian. its always so tiring, no time to wash the dishes etc... where got time for sex?

lagi Best is I everyday chiong sales for the family, my wife self snook and say things like "afraid i will go fool around outside because i am always on the go since she cannot give me sex".. which really pisses me off to hear this, because i did not fool around.

both of us are working, and i have been using apps previously but realised the ROI is super not worth and the time and effort taken is really super dang long. until a friend intro about GL and FL and all, that its safe (GL).. have not tried GL yet, but super urge to do so.

once she caught me surfing some porn and it became a big hoohaa gotta deal with much drama.. she cry and all..

went for MLs twice only and on the second time i fucked her and was super worried the next few weeks. worried about passing std to kids especially.

anyway, any bros here same situation as me?

I hear you, Bro FamaSutra. All these sound familiar. At least you get it once or twice; mine is practically close to zero and I have to resort to using my hands. Hope you get relief soon.

[Topshag33]

Originally Posted by hehfun

TS, you are not alone in this situation.

First of all, it is a norm, build in our DNA for men, males to have sexual desires
even when we are in the old age. Women don't/ refuse to... understand that.

1. Paying for sexual service is not cheating on your wife,
you are paying... paying to relief your sexual needs.
*Unless you are falling for the WL.
*Breaking up your family for the WL.
*Burning your pocket too much on the WLs services.

2. Super sex addicted...
if you are not having sex often... I don't think you are sex addicted.

3. "... go to office see so many OLs and ladies but can only see, lol. tried most ways ... "
Could you elaborate on this.
If you mean looking at them brings up you sexual desires, it's a norm for men.

4. GL and STDs.
Please remember to use condoms for safe sex.
Visit those houses permitted by the law.
Prostitutes are required to undergo frequent health checks for STDs
and must carry a current Doctors certificate to show they are clean.

*Don't go for freelancers if you are not sure.
You can read/research more on GL safe sex practice.
Please remember to use condoms for safe sex.

If you think your wife is suspecting something,
cease all the ECActivities.

Hope this helps.

Up points bro. good advice

[sexcision]

Originally Posted by hehfun

TS, you are not alone in this situation.

First of all, it is a norm, build in our DNA for men, males to have sexual desires
even when we are in the old age. Women don't/ refuse to... understand that.

1. Paying for sexual service is not cheating on your wife,
you are paying... paying to relief your sexual needs.
*Unless you are falling for the WL.
*Breaking up your family for the WL.
*Burning your pocket too much on the WLs services.

Kinda disagree with this point.
Of coz we men can think of hundreds of reason/excuse to justify the reason for eating out. But having sex with a 3rd party with or without money or feeling involved is cheating.
A more simplified scenario is can you accept your wife fucking another man if she pays. Do you consider that as betrayal/cheating?

Anagin, I do not object to eating out. But what kept me away from it is the same concern TS had, STD.
There's many kind, but not all can be prevented by condoms.

[Docow1000]

not an uncommon problem TS.
if scared STD, maybe just go for hj svc with those MLs

[ibanezjem555]

Sigh.. after married many years, OC menopause.. too dry now. Also, she don't want use lubricants, as too unnatural, slimy etc etc..No bj, no anal.. so take matters in my own hands and beat hand gun.

[I Love Boobs]

I solved the problem.
My wife divorced me after she had an affair and was hoping to hitch up to her new sugar daddy.
Plus she put on 20kg+ after marriage so sex was bad (even when I got it)
So now I regularly get sex with young chix..
Yup, I may pay and play...
But I'm still paying from my previous marriage.
And the sex is soooo much better now.
Having an 18 year old and fucking her brains out?
Priceless....

[danilov]

Originally Posted by ibanezjem555

Sigh.. after married many years, OC menopause.. too dry now. Also, she don't want use lubricants, as too unnatural, slimy etc etc..No bj, no anal.. so take matters in my own hands and beat hand gun.

Wonder how nature evolved that way, women menopause and become sexless earlier than men. Not that men have many more years extra but nowadays with modern medication and techniques, those years can be stretched even further.

[danilov]

Originally Posted by I Love Boobs

I solved the problem.
My wife divorced me after she had an affair and was hoping to hitch up to her new sugar daddy.
Plus she put on 20kg+ after marriage so sex was bad (even when I got it)

How your wife put on 20+ kilos, bad sex and yet still had affair / SD? That does not compute ...