bros im fucked

[steinbecksg]

some of u may remember as the guy who lost his virginity only at the age of 27 to a FL. Im 33 this year already.. my life is even more fucked up. I got married to a viet massage gal and within 1 and a half year she cheated on me with a prc guy. We had a pair of twins.. she took them to viet and of course i had to support them. Im sending 1k per month to her. its my responsibility.

at first i tried going for local gals but was rejected by them as expected. im low income, no car, no paper. was insulted by some of them, they think they r very great even though they were just holding some admin jobs with a dip.

with this setback and other problems, i developed severe depression and insomnia and was prescribed meds by imh but i had stopped taking them coz i think they r useless and medical bills are expensive.

however, i lost my job as a retail asst as i did not turn up for work due to my screwed up state. i went for interviews at metro, isetan and many other cos but no body contacted me for a job. i don't understand why too.

i have 2 elderly parents to support as well and im really at my wits end. i tried going to my dad's relatives. he had helped them financially in the past and they always claimed they will repay his kindness every CNY when we met up. But they refused to help and were unpleasant when i approached them.

on my studies front, i was a sec 3 dropout and only managed to get my O levels at the age of 32. Had to beg the poly authorities to take me in and posted me to a cold course that nobody wanted. I had a hard time coping as my foundation in maths were very weak.. night classes are really screwed up. and i had problems interacting with my classmates due to age gap and they were saying unpleasant stuff behind my back. i didn't talk much to them initially and was labelled unfriendly. when i tried talking to them i was labelled as a pedo. whatever i do im fucked.

applied for a bursary and got it but it only pays a portion of sch fees. With all these issues i was so depressed i thought of killing myself. but now i have decided to strengthen up and try my best to make money. i hope if any bros here have any lobangs pls intro me.

thank u for reading my wot, im screwed up mentally, hope i make sense in this post.

[volcano]

Originally Posted by steinbecksg

I got married to a viet massage gal and within 1 and a half year she cheated on me with a prc guy. We had a pair of twins.. she took them to viet and of course i had to support them. Im sending 1k per month to her. its my responsibility.

hey dude..i think u r seriously screwed..wtf r u giving ur wife $1k per month when she cheated on u n take ur kids away......and u still can think that its ur responsibility...u should not give her a single cent and let her return the kids to u if she cant survive.


i am living in HCMC,my household expenses together with my wife is less then 10 mills per month.so how much do u think ur kids can spend,unless u r feeding someone who gives u a green hat...$1k Sgd is about 16.6 mills Vnd,a fresh graduate is only earning half of this amount..hence,do the calculation urself.

[jnudes]

Originally Posted by steinbecksg

some of u may remember as the guy who lost his virginity only at the age of 27 to a FL. Im 33 this year already.. my life is even more fucked up. I got married to a viet massage gal and within 1 and a half year she cheated on me with a prc guy. We had a pair of twins.. she took them to viet and of course i had to support them. Im sending 1k per month to her. its my responsibility.

at first i tried going for local gals but was rejected by them as expected. im low income, no car, no paper. was insulted by some of them, they think they r very great even though they were just holding some admin jobs with a dip.

with this setback and other problems, i developed severe depression and insomnia and was prescribed meds by imh but i had stopped taking them coz i think they r useless and medical bills are expensive.

however, i lost my job as a retail asst as i did not turn up for work due to my screwed up state. i went for interviews at metro, isetan and many other cos but no body contacted me for a job. i don't understand why too.

i have 2 elderly parents to support as well and im really at my wits end. i tried going to my dad's relatives. he had helped them financially in the past and they always claimed they will repay his kindness every CNY when we met up. But they refused to help and were unpleasant when i approached them.

on my studies front, i was a sec 3 dropout and only managed to get my O levels at the age of 32. Had to beg the poly authorities to take me in and posted me to a cold course that nobody wanted. I had a hard time coping as my foundation in maths were very weak.. night classes are really screwed up. and i had problems interacting with my classmates due to age gap and they were saying unpleasant stuff behind my back. i didn't talk much to them initially and was labelled unfriendly. when i tried talking to them i was labelled as a pedo. whatever i do im fucked.

applied for a bursary and got it but it only pays a portion of sch fees. With all these issues i was so depressed i thought of killing myself. but now i have decided to strengthen up and try my best to make money. i hope if any bros here have any lobangs pls intro me.

thank u for reading my wot, im screwed up mentally, hope i make sense in this post.

bro, I lost my virginity at the age of 22 years old which I considered late until I saw your post here today.

Low income guys tend to go for Viet brides and some end up with unhappy endings and nasty divorce in the end.

The SG girls money face behavior is nothing new. Having a diploma is also no big deal too. No one likes to be insulted especially you, I know. This is probably the lowest period in your life. Do not be discouraged. Stay strong.

You decided to take the traditional route of marrying (late 20s to early 30s) and to start a family with a foreign bride as no local girls want you. Truly understandable. If I am you I would remain single with zero commitment until today.

But they way you do it is too rush, meaning you did not know her well and most probably you married for the sake of making your parents happy?

You did not get a job because most the jobs have been taken by foreigner; Malaysian and PRC that gets lower pay than yours.

Your relatives talk is really cheap. Talk first say will repay but zero action later on. This is what I called ungrateful relatives. Same with my relatives in SG, only keep in touch through phone but never come to visit. Even my sisters marriage they also never bother to attend. Next time they die I also won't give a shit about their funeral. For me to help them out in trouble period better I give them to charity and remain anonymous. Expect people to remember your past kindness, nah, just forget it. The current society only knows money and material more than anything else.

What you mentioned above is getting bullied by your coursemates. What I can say is what you spent will be worthless just to get a diploma. You might need to venture into something else.

Life is tough if you are unemployed with money running out and with aging parents to take care. Of course you need to start everything from scratch again.

As Lord Buddha says, no matter how hard it is, you can always start from the beginning. Good luck with your decision making and money making goals.

[Tai_zi21]

My advice for u

Since u dun mind working retail, why not try ur luck with superstore? Example courts? Harvey norman? They always need people And they dun mind ppl with no experience Just tat are you willing to learn?

And for ur wife, well fuck it! Going to depression? Worth it? U r only 33 not 83 for christ seek!

[steinbecksg]

Originally Posted by Tai_zi21

My advice for u

Since u dun mind working retail, why not try ur luck with superstore? Example courts? Harvey norman? They always need people And they dun mind ppl with no experience Just tat are you willing to learn?

bro i tried courts but they didnt call me back. i don't really like selling electric/it stuff. my brain not so good liao cannot absorb so much specs info, i scared when customers ask me i dunno how to reply

[steinbecksg]

thanks jnudes. what u say make sense

[steinbecksg]

Originally Posted by volcano

hey dude..i think u r seriously screwed..wtf r u giving ur wife $1k per month when she cheated on u n take ur kids away......and u still can think that its ur responsibility...u should not give her a single cent and let her return the kids to u if she cant survive.


i am living in HCMC,my household expenses together with my wife is less then 10 mills per month.so how much do u think ur kids can spend,unless u r feeding someone who gives u a green hat...$1k Sgd is about 16.6 mills Vnd,a fresh graduate is only earning half of this amount..hence,do the calculation urself.

bro u got how many kids?

[subidowa]

U are so seriously fucked up.... U should place ur family first, education second and then u can talk about finding a girl. Settling down is the last time u should ever do (no money no paper no career) how u want a girl to stick to u. This outcome only shows one more time that girls cannot be trusted. Never place too much hopes on them.

While u can still get urself out with money of course. Maybe u are not meant to study and do proper jobs. Maybe u need to risk something to gain money. Sidelines maybe more suitable for u since u. WIth greater risks come big money.

With money, girls willl come begging for u. No worry if u dun have papers, education or a proper job. THis time u can choose what kind of girls u want no matter jap, kor, taiwan or other countries. Once u sick of them liao throw. If u ever reach this stage, u should fucking ditch ur viet wife and sons too...

[Ken79]

TS bro, u need to pull yourself together now, continue with your poly course and find a job to at least pay your bills, meals n transport.
After u grad then consider your career options.

For your wife, she ran away and being so heartless to you i think you shld just send enough money back for the kids alone, maybe $500.
Why pay her more than enough for her to fool around with other guys or shake legs at home, while u go through depression and job loss?

I wish u all the best and when u are in such a tight spot now with little options and minimal resources to spare, always think for yourself first in times like these.

[alan0338]

your life is seriously fucked up from all the stories of urself tat u posted since 2011...

[stillgottheblue]

Stop giving allowance to your fucking wife and letting her use the children as a tool to get her means. If she calls you, don't pick up the phone, don't talk to her. We don't know the both sides of the story, so it's hard to come to conclusion if you're the devil or she's the bitch.

Regarding your job, you have to set it as your first priority in your life right now. You may need to keep trying, and continue to improve yourself with each interview. Whether in appearance, dressing or when answering the interviewer's questions. Without job, and in a place like Singapore, you will have many problems. You could try your luck at government agencies, at least they had more connections and job matching capabilities.

Lastly, your job situation is partly caused by the government by increasing the population to grow the economy. When the time to vote, you fucking consider if you should really want this government.

[Bery]

Dear TS,
Is the $1k alimony decreed by court? If not fuck it, just pay $200.
I would suggest menial job for the time being, rather than sitting around. 吃得苦中苦，方为人上人。
Dump yourself into work and your mental health will improve too. Carry on with the diploma course, will only do u good in the future.
No job is too lowly in this situation. I can think of food court/coffeeshop jobs, car washing (I always give tips for the good attitude ones), pump attendant etc.......
With all due respect to ladies, in Cantonese we say good one is 女人，bad one is 累人. Stay out of women for the time being, and leave it to fate later.

Take care bro.

[VanHouten]

Dear TS, please free up your inbox.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by steinbecksg

some of u may remember as the guy who lost his virginity only at the age of 27 to a FL. Im 33 this year already.. my life is even more fucked up. I got married to a viet massage gal and within 1 and a half year she cheated on me with a prc guy.

What did you expect?... a "lived happily ever after" story?

Read the link in my signature. Whores are for fucking not loving.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by stillgottheblue

Stop giving allowance to your fucking wife and letting her use the children as a tool to get her means.

The children may not be his in the first place.