Sex deprivation from gf is driving me insane

[crossmenot90]

Hello everyone.

So background story... Im in my mid 20s and i have this gf who's around my age and been with me for over a year.
I'm a guy, and like most guys I have a strong libido. Every once in a while, I have the urge for the need of release and I usually handled it by myself (when I was single).
When Im finally in a r/s, I thought my days of self release will be over, but it only got worse. Imagine a hungry man who has food in front of him but can't get access to it. I ended up masturbating almost every other day (yes i know thats super unhealthy).

My gf grew up with very traditional values, and she doesnt have much gfs to talk openly about stuff related to sex etc... so she is like super ignorant about this kind of stuff. Nor does she feel the need to explore her sexuality and doesnt seem to have much of a libido.

I have tried to open her up to new experiences, but the most i could get was some petting and barely a HJ (she was terrible at it). She insists that any form of sex (BJ, cunninglus, regular sex) were off the table until we got married.

That only drives me more insane and my unfulfilled desires seem to have taken a toll on our r/s. Me being more cranky and cynical towards her.
Now when she ask if I love her, I dont dare to answer her cause deep down Im afraid that Im only saying yes because i want to have skinship relations with her, instead of loving her on the emotional level.

I'm not financially ready to get married till I reach 30. and thats a few years later. Meaning I will only get to have actual sex then? and no bj in the meantime? Her HJ skills aint helping either (I have gotten happy endings in parlours so I do compare a bit). I'm literally afraid my intentions of getting married in life has slowly twisted from wanting to be with someone i love to becoming someone who just want to have sex. And imagine if it turns out shes not a fan of sex and doesnt want to put out later when we get married?!?! The list of potential nightmares goes on...

Does any bros out there experience anything similar and could give me some advice. Pls don't give any troll remarks cause you ain't helping here.
I'm sincerely looking for some advice.

[conquer]

That's what chickens are for.

Honestly, if you are looking for advices how to "trick" your girlfriend to have sex with you, I really feel sorry for her. If you love her, respect her.

[Havanna Slicks]

hi bro, i'm no guru but i ain't no troll either, i mean i've had some r/s probs myself, i would like to share wad i know wif u,
not necessary u have to heed but u can put into ur pocket for consideration...

i would say bro, u're a very lucky man, nowadays hard to find such unpolished raw diamonds already, the fact that she is sexually
inexperienced means she's there for u to guide her, a raw diamond waiting to be polished... could be a virgin, could be not...
another scenario is that she had sex be4 and that was not a pleasant experience so she's putting it off but unlikely as u say she grew
up with traditional values so there u have it...

u cant compare a normal girl with a WL, all girls are not born to make men happy ie HJ, BJ, sex etc, the fact u're sexually experienced
also learn from experience so u have the upper hand, u shld use it to ur advantage and teach her, mould her like playdoh to ur satisfaction...

sex is not everything in a r/s, emotional level is the top priority, no matter how good the sex is, it's gonna wear out one day, it's up to the
2 of u to make things interesting and keep the spark alive, ie lingerie, toys, role playing etc... emotional level is wads holds it together,
it will never wear out say if u're good frens, enjoying doing other things together that is wad will keep both of u going when everything else fails,
if it's the other way round, no emotional level but fantastic sex, this is a failed r/s from the start waiting to explode only... imagine u're a rabbit, let u
eat the best carrots (marriage) 3 times a day, sooner or later u will get tired of it... suddenly u taste grass (affair) and u like it so much u avoid carrots
altogether even though carrots are more nutritious and of higher quality...

try another scenario, u find a gf who's sexually more experienced than u, make u even more shiok than gg outside, wont u be wondering hw many
men has she done it be4, that's a no-no, at ur wedding march in, half the men are smiling slyly coz they have seen her naked, u wan this kinda scene?
abit extreme but i'm juz trying to illustrate a stronger picture...

good things are worth waiting for, meanwhile u can continue pcc or eat outside, till the day u bed ur gf after ur marriage, u will appreciate her much more...
a word of advice from a senior cheongster here, rather than spending time and effort on sex, use the time to train up ur body and stamina, u will appreciate it even more when u get older...

so bro decide for urself... which road u wan to take...

[victor125]

Honestly, saving sexually stuff for after marriage is a bad idea in my book.

You marry someone because you fit together on the same level, be it mindset, religion, values, background etc. BUT people always forget about sexually level. Sexual chemistry is a huge part of a relationship, sex is not just for mating and having babies, that one you don't even need sex give you test tube and turkey baster enough.

Yes agree sex is not all about the relationship, but is a huge part of it at least until you mid 40s. Personally coming from relationships where the girl is a virgin vs. the girl is semi-experience know what she likes/dislikes, the latter is better. What age are we in already, virgin before marriage like present meh. You in your 20s you should know too.

How you connect to someone sexually is incredibly important, everyone have sex in their own way/style. Some like it rough, some like it kinky, some plain vanilla. All is okay, what matters is that you both fit on the same sexual energy and level. Even for myself, after a few years of losing my virginity then I start to figure sex out better. How will you know? Yes it involves practice and sure you both can wait until after marriage then become skilled in sex with each other. No harm. The problem IMO is after marriage, contract signed. No backing out. Then stuck in years of unhappy sex, need to go elsewhere find.

I don't accept a girl who is super ignorant about sexually stuff in their 20s, I'm not saying go out and have sex with 10 different people. But at least you are in your 20s, there is the internet, you have your own privacy, she must know what she like and what she doesn't, she must know her own body her own orgasms.

You said it clearly yourself, what if she doesn't like sex after you are both married.

My advice, since only one year give it sometime. Talk to her about it, that this sexually stuff is important to both of you, important to US (see the emphasis). But the tricky line is balancing the idea that sexually level is important for both parties vs. pressuring her into having sex. She must be able to make this decision on her own, the moment you pressure her into sex, bye bye.

If long run, still nothing and she still insistent sex after marriage. Then possibly time to call it quits. Easy way is to think of something that definite no no for you, maybe "religion" or "children in the future" issue. Both of your views on the matter don't match each other, only can go separate ways wish each other the best.

[HeadOn]

A gd way to reduce ur drive n shift ur focus away from sex is to exercise. If r working, after work head to the gym. Train almost Everyday including finishing off a 5km cardio w a min 12km/hr speed. I cfm u will have lesser drive n have a hot bod soon

[edvil]

TS, if fuck is the only thing you want a gf for, go find a chicken better
Fuck and forget, need not go insane and kpkb here in forum

[Splitter100]

If you had read earlier threads and posts
You will know that it will only get worst after you get married
Because they are already fixed onto their beliefs/education on life and are uncomfortable with the sexual intimacy aspect

Hope I'm wrong on this

[Havanna Slicks]

Originally Posted by HeadOn

A gd way to reduce ur drive n shift ur focus away from sex is to exercise. If r working, after work head to the gym. Train almost Everyday including finishing off a 5km cardio w a min 12km/hr speed. I cfm u will have lesser drive n have a hot bod soon

speaking of the devil...

[YELLOW]

Dont end up like some of us.....STUCK IN A SEXLESS PASSIONLESS EMOTIONLESS HAPLESS MARRIAGE....I totally agree w bro victor.....

Originally Posted by victor125

Honestly, saving sexually stuff for after marriage is a bad idea in my book.

You marry someone because you fit together on the same level, be it mindset, religion, values, background etc. BUT people always forget about sexually level. Sexual chemistry is a huge part of a relationship, sex is not just for mating and having babies, that one you don't even need sex give you test tube and turkey baster enough.

Yes agree sex is not all about the relationship, but is a huge part of it at least until you mid 40s. Personally coming from relationships where the girl is a virgin vs. the girl is semi-experience know what she likes/dislikes, the latter is better. What age are we in already, virgin before marriage like present meh. You in your 20s you should know too.

How you connect to someone sexually is incredibly important, everyone have sex in their own way/style. Some like it rough, some like it kinky, some plain vanilla. All is okay, what matters is that you both fit on the same sexual energy and level. Even for myself, after a few years of losing my virginity then I start to figure sex out better. How will you know? Yes it involves practice and sure you both can wait until after marriage then become skilled in sex with each other. No harm. The problem IMO is after marriage, contract signed. No backing out. Then stuck in years of unhappy sex, need to go elsewhere find.

I don't accept a girl who is super ignorant about sexually stuff in their 20s, I'm not saying go out and have sex with 10 different people. But at least you are in your 20s, there is the internet, you have your own privacy, she must know what she like and what she doesn't, she must know her own body her own orgasms.

You said it clearly yourself, what if she doesn't like sex after you are both married.

My advice, since only one year give it sometime. Talk to her about it, that this sexually stuff is important to both of you, important to US (see the emphasis). But the tricky line is balancing the idea that sexually level is important for both parties vs. pressuring her into having sex. She must be able to make this decision on her own, the moment you pressure her into sex, bye bye.

If long run, still nothing and she still insistent sex after marriage. Then possibly time to call it quits. Easy way is to think of something that definite no no for you, maybe "religion" or "children in the future" issue. Both of your views on the matter don't match each other, only can go separate ways wish each other the best.

[Datingafter35]

Originally Posted by crossmenot90

Hello everyone.

So background story... Im in my mid 20s and i have this gf who's around my age and been with me for over a year.
I'm a guy, and like most guys I have a strong libido. Every once in a while, I have the urge for the need of release and I usually handled it by myself (when I was single).
When Im finally in a r/s, I thought my days of self release will be over, but it only got worse. Imagine a hungry man who has food in front of him but can't get access to it. I ended up masturbating almost every other day (yes i know thats super unhealthy).

My gf grew up with very traditional values, and she doesnt have much gfs to talk openly about stuff related to sex etc... so she is like super ignorant about this kind of stuff. Nor does she feel the need to explore her sexuality and doesnt seem to have much of a libido.

I have tried to open her up to new experiences, but the most i could get was some petting and barely a HJ (she was terrible at it). She insists that any form of sex (BJ, cunninglus, regular sex) were off the table until we got married.

That only drives me more insane and my unfulfilled desires seem to have taken a toll on our r/s. Me being more cranky and cynical towards her.
Now when she ask if I love her, I dont dare to answer her cause deep down Im afraid that Im only saying yes because i want to have skinship relations with her, instead of loving her on the emotional level.

I'm not financially ready to get married till I reach 30. and thats a few years later. Meaning I will only get to have actual sex then? and no bj in the meantime? Her HJ skills aint helping either (I have gotten happy endings in parlours so I do compare a bit). I'm literally afraid my intentions of getting married in life has slowly twisted from wanting to be with someone i love to becoming someone who just want to have sex. And imagine if it turns out shes not a fan of sex and doesnt want to put out later when we get married?!?! The list of potential nightmares goes on...

Does any bros out there experience anything similar and could give me some advice. Pls don't give any troll remarks cause you ain't helping here.
I'm sincerely looking for some advice.

As a practitioner of pua. Fuck her. Because there will be one guy who can elicit emotions in her to make her want him.

Do what you can with her and find another pussy. Don't believe a word they say. Trust me. When a girl feels you are valuable. She will do anything to keep you.

[squiggle]

Up to you, you can either choose a new sex drive compatible gf or simply continue your relationship with your current gf but pcc or visiting geylang to ease your urge (but this might cost you a bomb, where you need to pay for the expenses for your gf and visiting geylang.).

The best is still confess to her about your sexual needs, then see what can be done from there.

[hhlover]

Worst thing in life is having a gf who say this..
Only sex after we married...
Then u find out she lose her virgin to some other guy be4 u..
Be it willingly or not.. it happen..
I have seen this happen many times in my circle of life..
Trust me is hard to have a girl will be able to keep her virgin till marry..

[oxeso]

Originally Posted by hhlover

Worst thing in life is having a gf who say this..
Only sex after we married...

Lagi worse if believe in tat crap.

If talk doesn't work, change gf. Kill d giant while it's little.

[Fat Fatt]

Originally Posted by Havanna Slicks

hi bro, i'm no guru but i ain't no troll either, i mean i've had some r/s probs myself, i would like to share wad i know wif u,
not necessary u have to heed but u can put into ur pocket for consideration...

i would say bro, u're a very lucky man, nowadays hard to find such unpolished raw diamonds already, the fact that she is sexually
inexperienced means she's there for u to guide her, a raw diamond waiting to be polished... could be a virgin, could be not...
another scenario is that she had sex be4 and that was not a pleasant experience so she's putting it off but unlikely as u say she grew
up with traditional values so there u have it...

u cant compare a normal girl with a WL, all girls are not born to make men happy ie HJ, BJ, sex etc, the fact u're sexually experienced
also learn from experience so u have the upper hand, u shld use it to ur advantage and teach her, mould her like playdoh to ur satisfaction...

sex is not everything in a r/s, emotional level is the top priority, no matter how good the sex is, it's gonna wear out one day, it's up to the
2 of u to make things interesting and keep the spark alive, ie lingerie, toys, role playing etc... emotional level is wads holds it together,
it will never wear out say if u're good frens, enjoying doing other things together that is wad will keep both of u going when everything else fails,
if it's the other way round, no emotional level but fantastic sex, this is a failed r/s from the start waiting to explode only... imagine u're a rabbit, let u
eat the best carrots (marriage) 3 times a day, sooner or later u will get tired of it... suddenly u taste grass (affair) and u like it so much u avoid carrots
altogether even though carrots are more nutritious and of higher quality...

try another scenario, u find a gf who's sexually more experienced than u, make u even more shiok than gg outside, wont u be wondering hw many
men has she done it be4, that's a no-no, at ur wedding march in, half the men are smiling slyly coz they have seen her naked, u wan this kinda scene?
abit extreme but i'm juz trying to illustrate a stronger picture...

good things are worth waiting for, meanwhile u can continue pcc or eat outside, till the day u bed ur gf after ur marriage, u will appreciate her much more...
a word of advice from a senior cheongster here, rather than spending time and effort on sex, use the time to train up ur body and stamina, u will appreciate it even more when u get older...

so bro decide for urself... which road u wan to take...

Agreed ... spoken like a true veteran understanding women and the value of different types of women

My take: forget the financials, ROM first and start your sex. Don’t go to WL and remember to respect and love your unpolished diamond

[CoCK ShoCk]

Originally Posted by hhlover

Worst thing in life is having a gf who say this..
Only sex after we married...
Then u find out she lose her virgin to some other guy be4 u..
Be it willingly or not.. it happen..
I have seen this happen many times in my circle of life..
Trust me is hard to have a girl will be able to keep her virgin till marry..

Likely due to religious sentiments or upbringing. Just got to respect that I suppose.