Frequency of Sex of Married Couple

[leelu717]

Hi Everyone,

This is a innocent but serious topic.
Just want to find out how frequent do real married couples have physical intimacy?
Sorry those not married don’t have to give opinion cos I would really like to know what is really normal for couples in Singapore and what is really healthy.
Thank you all.

[Dustingalaxy]

Once a week for me! But if we are busy and tired. It could be once every 2-3 weeks.

[candle2000]

Originally Posted by leelu717

Hi Everyone,

This is a innocent but serious topic.
Just want to find out how frequent do real married couples have physical intimacy?
Sorry those not married don’t have to give opinion cos I would really like to know what is really normal for couples in Singapore and what is really healthy.
Thank you all.

You may have heard or read it before, a simple and basic guide for newly married couples on how to proceed with their sex life ............

Follow the 9 Multiplication Table:

3 x 9 = 27
Married at age 27, For every 2 weeks , total 7 times sex till you reached age 35

4 x 9 = 36
Now age 36, For every 3 weeks, total 6 times sex till age 44

5 x 9 =45
Now age 45, For every 4 weeks, total 5 times sex till age 53

6 x 9 =54
Now age 54, For every 5 weeks, total 4 times sex till 62

7 x 9 =63 (some of us may have to take the blue pills to get it hard and up)
Now age 63, For every 6 weeks , total 3 times sex till 71

8 x 9=72 (the penis may become flaccid and cannot have sex)
Now age 72 , For every 7 weeks , total 2 times sex till 80

9 x 9=81..........Ah, still can do it ?

[ferragamo]

the EVERY rule is more accurate

before marriage - every day

immediately after marriage - every few days

2 years after marriage - every week

after baby - every month

kids start schooling - every few months

kids at PSLE/Secondary school - every day (with other people)

[temi]

Originally Posted by ferragamo

kids start schooling - every few months

kids at PSLE/Secondary school - every day (with other people)

Mine slightly different, after 1st baby still frequent and have 2nd then 3rd then 4th then 5th babies.

Then stop.

[lam1673]

For me:
Before marriage (courtship period)
Every opportunity. Almost all dates end with sex.

1st year
Almost everyday except during her period

During 1st pregnancy
Still continue to have sex 2-3 times a week to early 3rd trimster

1st child
Down to twice a week or less.

Trying to produce 2nd child to meet the year of dragon
Almost everyday.

2nd child
Once a week.

Afters > 10 years. Once a month or less

After >20 years. Infrequent. For 2019 to date only had 4 times.

Before having children, sex was great. We used to sleep naked and cuddled each other and then sex. Best sex life during the time.

[mokermania]

Once a week or once a month if we are busy.

[thedevil666]

Originally Posted by leelu717

Hi Everyone,

This is a innocent but serious topic.
Just want to find out how frequent do real married couples have physical intimacy?
Sorry those not married don’t have to give opinion cos I would really like to know what is really normal for couples in Singapore and what is really healthy.
Thank you all.

I’m 35, married for 4-5 years, and before that we paktor for 8 years?

During paktor stage, almost every week at least once if there’s an opportunity (e.g. parents not at home etc).

After marriage, few times a month, she even take pills so we can birth control and do planning.

For the past 2-3 years, one year can count using fingers and toes.

She declared that she don’t like sex at all. So that’s the crux of the problem.

[cheongsteer]

Married with 2 kids. At least 2 times a week. Last week did 5 times.

[alec]

married for 10yrs with 1 kid, last time dating still 3-4x a week, after child born, maybe 1x a week, now child in Pri school, 1x a year IF lucky.... usually will outsource if needed.

[alec]

Originally Posted by lam1673

For me:
Before marriage (courtship period)
Every opportunity. Almost all dates end with sex.

1st year
Almost everyday except during her period

During 1st pregnancy
Still continue to have sex 2-3 times a week to early 3rd trimster

1st child
Down to twice a week or less.

Trying to produce 2nd child to meet the year of dragon
Almost everyday.

2nd child
Once a week.

Afters > 10 years. Once a month or less

After >20 years. Infrequent. For 2019 to date only had 4 times.

Before having children, sex was great. We used to sleep naked and cuddled each other and then sex. Best sex life during the time.

thinking back.. its just haizz
往事只能回味

[danilov]

Originally Posted by ferragamo

kids at PSLE/Secondary school - every day (with other people)

So true, bro!!!

Definitely sex decreases with kids in the picture but also depends on whether there's help and support for the kids. I know some married couples with kids still have good frequency ... Basically it's not the number of kids or whatever, if want frequent sex, the routine workload that exhaust the couple must be reduced.

[leelu717]

Thank you for sharing, if there are any lady members reading this I would also like to have some input from the female perspective.

Just to give some history to this topic
I’m married for almost 20 years now but I can tell you that I can count the number of times my wife and I have sex with my fingers and toes.
During the 8 years of courtship my wife was very strict in absolutely no intercourse, of cos we were not saints and we had HJ each other probably about once a month.
So the 2 virgins happily got married and as we were very fertile, my wife conceived our first child within the first month with just 3 rounds (separate days of cos). During her pregnancy sex was a no-no to her and hence I engaged my 5 girlfriends (my fingers on my right hand) during that period of time. After the birth of my first child we had at best once a year and it was always me who requested for it numerous times before she gave in. Life goes on with such routine and my relationship with my 5 girlfriends remain active.
Then after a few years my wife wanted a second child and that was when she initiated. As we were older, our hit rate was not so high and she conceived my second child only after 5 rounds over 2 months.
Pregnancy period was again a no-sex-period for her. Not only that after my second child was born, there were none until my second child turned 4 (meaning all most 5 years in total).
That period of time was extremely tough for me, but that was the period when my career “took-off”. I had a good job that allowed us to have a decent size (in Singapore context) HDB, a Korean made family size car, and average 2 overseas holidays a year. My wife eventually decided to quit her job and be a stay at home mom. We are not rich but we are comfortable, and for just an O level graduate this was something I never thought I could have.
Life at work also started to exposed me to entertainment in clubs and pubs, and this was when I learnt that paid service was common. I fell for the first temptation during that 5 years of dryness.
On top of that my wife and I drifted apart for different reasons. I resent her for lack of physical intimacy and she resent me for not spending enough time with her and our children due to my busy work schedule.
Life goes on for a few more years with me falling for temptations another time but throughout my 5 girlfriends who don’t charge were still my main source.
Like the Chinese saying, you will come across a tiger eventually if you climb too many mountains. My wife found out about me engaging paid services and of cos she was extremely angry and disappointed. I tried to defend myself with the theory of men’s needs but she always insisted that a marriage cannot be built on sexual desire, and I can only agree that a marriage cannot be built on sexual desire ONLY. She eventually chose to stick around for the sake of our children which till today I am so grateful of.
Life continue to go on with the same routine of once a year. But temptations in Singapore is everywhere and I fell one more time.......... and “lucky” enough my wife caught me again. It was a crisis at that point and I requested that we see a marriage counsellor which she declined immediately, thinking that it is solely my fault and my problem and that I cheated and lied to her repeatedly and hence counselling help will not work, it was simply my fault.
After using all kinds of reasoning with her she had decided to stay on with this lousy marriage, and of cos for the sake of our children.
Our resentment towards each other grew stronger slowly but surely, by the day, and the time we spend with each other and the communications that we have almost non existent.
They say you reap what you sow. Recently I uncovered that she has been secretly seeing another man. From the WhatsApp messages they exchanged I know she has a very strong feeling for him. That broke me from head to toe. She initially tried to deny and hide, and finally admitted when I showed her solid evidences. She insisted that the affair is non sexual and she was looking for companion and attention, and this is due to my cheating and neglecting the family.
While I don’t blame her as I was the one cheated on her first, she never recognised that there was a reason why I fell for temptations.

Well, now I am at the crossroad not knowing what to do. She stayed on after knowing I cheated on her, but am I able to really get over this? The fact is I still love her so very much.

Best of all, I just loss my job.........

What will change from now? I really don’t know.

Well, if you have read till this point, I thank you for your time and contribution.

[limjp]

Originally Posted by leelu717

Thank you for sharing, if there are any lady members reading this I would also like to have some input from the female perspective.

Just to give some history to this topic
I’m married for almost 20 years now but I can tell you that I can count the number of times my wife and I have sex with my fingers and toes.
During the 8 years of courtship my wife was very strict in absolutely no intercourse, of cos we were not saints and we had HJ each other probably about once a month.
So the 2 virgins happily got married and as we were very fertile, my wife conceived our first child within the first month with just 3 rounds (separate days of cos). During her pregnancy sex was a no-no to her and hence I engaged my 5 girlfriends (my fingers on my right hand) during that period of time. After the birth of my first child we had at best once a year and it was always me who requested for it numerous times before she gave in. Life goes on with such routine and my relationship with my 5 girlfriends remain active.
Then after a few years my wife wanted a second child and that was when she initiated. As we were older, our hit rate was not so high and she conceived my second child only after 5 rounds over 2 months.
Pregnancy period was again a no-sex-period for her. Not only that after my second child was born, there were none until my second child turned 4 (meaning all most 5 years in total).
That period of time was extremely tough for me, but that was the period when my career “took-off”. I had a good job that allowed us to have a decent size (in Singapore context) HDB, a Korean made family size car, and average 2 overseas holidays a year. My wife eventually decided to quit her job and be a stay at home mom. We are not rich but we are comfortable, and for just an O level graduate this was something I never thought I could have.
Life at work also started to exposed me to entertainment in clubs and pubs, and this was when I learnt that paid service was common. I fell for the first temptation during that 5 years of dryness.
On top of that my wife and I drifted apart for different reasons. I resent her for lack of physical intimacy and she resent me for not spending enough time with her and our children due to my busy work schedule.
Life goes on for a few more years with me falling for temptations another time but throughout my 5 girlfriends who don’t charge were still my main source.
Like the Chinese saying, you will come across a tiger eventually if you climb too many mountains. My wife found out about me engaging paid services and of cos she was extremely angry and disappointed. I tried to defend myself with the theory of men’s needs but she always insisted that a marriage cannot be built on sexual desire, and I can only agree that a marriage cannot be built on sexual desire ONLY. She eventually chose to stick around for the sake of our children which till today I am so grateful of.
Life continue to go on with the same routine of once a year. But temptations in Singapore is everywhere and I fell one more time.......... and “lucky” enough my wife caught me again. It was a crisis at that point and I requested that we see a marriage counsellor which she declined immediately, thinking that it is solely my fault and my problem and that I cheated and lied to her repeatedly and hence counselling help will not work, it was simply my fault.
After using all kinds of reasoning with her she had decided to stay on with this lousy marriage, and of cos for the sake of our children.
Our resentment towards each other grew stronger slowly but surely, by the day, and the time we spend with each other and the communications that we have almost non existent.
They say you reap what you sow. Recently I uncovered that she has been secretly seeing another man. From the WhatsApp messages they exchanged I know she has a very strong feeling for him. That broke me from head to toe. She initially tried to deny and hide, and finally admitted when I showed her solid evidences. She insisted that the affair is non sexual and she was looking for companion and attention, and this is due to my cheating and neglecting the family.
While I don’t blame her as I was the one cheated on her first, she never recognised that there was a reason why I fell for temptations.

Well, now I am at the crossroad not knowing what to do. She stayed on after knowing I cheated on her, but am I able to really get over this? The fact is I still love her so very much.

Best of all, I just loss my job.........

What will change from now? I really don’t know.

Well, if you have read till this point, I thank you for your time and contribution.

like in stock market, cut loss and move on.

[Voorhees]

Wah liao eh..

my friends all have same problem.

One saw his wife gave birth and loss all appetite for his wife. Didnt have sex for a year. Divorced now.

I think work, kids and stress of life can be an excuse. I know low income earners who have 2 kids fucked almost every night. Happily married for 20 years now.

Finding the right partner in this aspect is so important.