please advise

[Compassion]

Thanks bro Big Sexy for the info. This is called separating facts from fantasy.

[kurosaki ichigo]

Originally Posted by Ben Lau

hi all

can you advise, i recently know a girl theu a friend and she is my gf now. However i am bothered by her past..... She was here on a student pass and went into Fl because she needs financal support. She told me she could not work in any other jobs so have to take the indecent one.... She is remouseful and really want to be with me.

i think i can forgive and forget about her past if she is telling the truth. What do you guys think?

Best is not step in if you're bothered by it.

I hate to see another guy posting how he has been cheated of his feelings and worse still, money!!!

People can say alot of shit and lie through their teeth when they want something real bad. Whether the thing she wants from you is love .. I won't know

[sub2lady2]

If you accept what happen, and forgive her, then go on.

If you can not forget her past, then forget her, otherwise lot more trouble and problem ahead waiting for you

[Koreanlover]

TS do you have a clue on how much money she is making a month now? Let's say $7k. Let's just say she needs $5k to send back every month. When you guys get married I assume you are ready to make that difference. But what happens if not, and she wants to go back to "employment" again, what are your thoughts? She can always say you went in with open eyes. Not saying this will happen to you but for just discussion sake...

[colins]

If you really want to forgive her on the fact that she did FL before, dun set a condition la. Like now in order for you to put in the 'forgive and forget', you yourself must find out whether she did really suffer from financial problems, student pass can or cannot work, etc. You dun even know whether student pass holder can work or not, you've already expressed that you want to forgive and forget. Like sitting on the fence still.

And bro, even she did suffer financial problem, you also must do an audit to reconstruct that 'problem' to understand it. Is it financial problem becos she has no money to eat or no place to stay or cannot pay school fees or cannot buy LV bags? If she say really cannot pay school fees or cannot pay rental or no money to eat, then how the hell is it possible that she couldn't predict that the money she has ain't enough to support her? If financial problem means cannot live in luxury, then it is not a problem unless she has already decided to FL in Singapore, right?

It is hard when we are the ones trying to prove other people's innocence, especially so when we can be potential KC victims if we believed in their reasons. I can tell you if you choose to go this route, then you will forever be trying to find out what this financial problem is. There is no answer becos nothing can be proven. You will just put yourself into a cycle of believing unprovable reasons.

There is no such thing as a poor PRC student. They remain in China becos they know they do not have the means to study abroad.

There is only FL rich enough to afford a student pass.

[Big Sexy]

that is why i am the Forum Consultant..

Originally Posted by Compassion

Thanks bro Big Sexy for the info. This is called separating facts from fantasy.

[Goalie]

last time i knew of a prc student night time working as FL in famous sin tian di KTV can afford to build a house in near chengdu, sichuan and feed the whole family.

Only take 2 to 3 years or more she can do all these liao. hihihi. where got poor students only need to open legs can liao lor. she makes around 10k per month. got some idiots pay for her school fees, rental,...even air tickets to go home and come back during holiday.

[SamSeng79]

Wow.. this forum is a "myth buster".. Cleared my incorrect data..

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by Ben Lau

bros. abit confusing so it is can or cannot work?
anyone knows for sure?

She's allowed to do all sorts of decent jobs. The reason why she's decided to be a PROSTITUTE is because she's lazy, greedy, has no self respect, low self esteem and no moral values whatsoever.

For that reason she prefers to work in a horizontal position which provides for maximum returns with minimum effort.

If this is the sort of girl you want as the mother of your children, all I can say is that you're an absolute moron. Hopefully, your daughter to be will not follow in her mother's footsteps.

[rider021]

hi bro...just wanna share my own experience...
used to be together with a prc student who is quite chio and open minded..we were together for abt 3 months and during the 3months, i was always greeted with strange looks from strangers when went to GL with her for supper...1 nite while we were having frog porridge at L7, a man in his 30s just came to our table and ask " hi so time no see, r u still working as FL?" in chinese...i translate this part cos i very poor in chinese..i was damn shock and fill with embrassment and i gave that guy a hard stare and then he excused himself quickly..

i confronted her abt it after he left and she confessed that she is working in this field before we get together to supplement her expenses her cos everything is so ex as compare to her country..then she oso ment'ioned that after we are together, she has left the line...i sympathise with her plight but i cant overcome the fact that my GF is a ex-FL..not that i despised her but i tot of the future...what if 1 day when we were out in the streets with my friends or relatives and happen to meet her ex clients etc..and the same questions pop up...i just cant imagine the "MALU" situation that i have to go thru..

Needless to say, i broke up with her...as mentioned by other bros, the fact is she has been a FL and if you dun mind this kind of malu situation, you can give it a try but if you mind, then you better think twice..the fact will remains forever...my aplogies if i offended anyone..

[label34]

Originally Posted by Ben Lau

i think i can forgive and forget about her past if she is telling the truth. What do you guys think?

The simple fact is that she has been in the line of FL, period. Regardless of her reason. Why think so much?

Here's my 2 cents:

- Are you planning to marry her? If not, just enjoy the times you spend with her right now. Do not lead her on.

- She has done FL before, and she will do it again. Be mentally prepared for this.

- You will have to share(or rather, handle) her financial woes in the future, most probably pertaining to her family back home. Building a house for her sibilings/family would be 1 example, as families in China view having their own house as a symbol of status.

- There will be plenty of men stepping in and out of her life. If you are the jealous type...good luck.


- Trust issues; like what you are going through now. More to come in the future!

So, ask yourself...is she worth the trouble?

[Big Sexy]

Spot on sam..

Only FOOLS marry whore!
TS..Burn the witch!
Get rid off now

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

She's allowed to do all sorts of decent jobs. The reason why she's decided to be a PROSTITUTE is because she's lazy, greedy, has no self respect, low self esteem and no moral values whatsoever.
.

[Glock]

bro.

i think better that she fuck for money than she fuck expat for free

Originally Posted by Ben Lau

hi all

can you advise, i recently know a girl theu a friend and she is my gf now. However i am bothered by her past..... She was here on a student pass and went into Fl because she needs financal support. She told me she could not work in any other jobs so have to take the indecent one.... She is remouseful and really want to be with me.

i think i can forgive and forget about her past if she is telling the truth. What do you guys think?

[BlackerKnighter]

Originally Posted by Glock

bro.

i think better that she fuck for money than she fuck expat for free

Bro, don't like that lah.

Local SPG sluts who fuck angmohs for free at least get back something. Sometimes its some bags, free holidays, diamond rings maybe even car or house. Plus good sex, good feelings maybe even love. So not so bad a deal la.

Yes they may be sluts but how to compare with whores?

If you marry a slut maybe you worry she sometimes cheat but at least the R/S is not just pay money get fuck kind.

You marry a whore you also spend many hour kind think izzit she treat you as chye tow kway or not right?

I think there will be bros who can overlook the problems and marry whores. Bless them and hope they dont get cheated coz make wrong decision.

But for most of us, you fuck for money = you'll do anything easy for money = not so good wife material. simple actually.

[neyney]

I do agree with big sexy and sam about the fact, it is rather dangerous to marry whore or any FL.

but truthfully, there are some successful examples, where they turned good. i dun see there is right and wrong, when comes to choosing your partner and if they are Fl or whore anot.
imho, they are pretty much the same, more imptantly, is how well both of you are communicating?
Do you see any tell tale signs they are lying, and why they are not speaking truthfully to you? If you see that, i think you should try to find out why, if you are not satisfied with it, then you should leave. Are they also changing for you, is there any sign that they doing dat, do they have proper upbringing, any sense of responsibility towards you?

in short, you should be looking if they are changing, do they have any sense of responsibility towards you, are they lying to you?