What is your (future)burden in life?

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

等待就是一种遗憾, 遗憾是不能补救的, 不能补就的生命是无法挽回的. 因为, 生命也有它的保鲜期！ 孝敬父母不能等

有人说:
- 等我有钱了，我要大把大把的塞给爸爸妈妈，让老人家坐在钱堆上随便花
- 等我有时间了，带着爸爸妈妈，游完国内，游国外，让爸爸妈妈在有生之年潇洒个痛快！

我说:
-那是不可能的, 等待你把钱挣到手了, 爸爸妈妈的牙还能啃得动吗？
-等你有时间了, 想带着爸爸妈妈去周游世界, 他们还能上得去飞机吗?
-等你有……爸爸妈妈还……

当我们静下心来好好的想一想时, 对爸爸妈妈的孝心,, 其实不就是在我们平时的“滋润”中完成的吗?

天下第一情是父母之情，因为爸爸妈妈太容易满足了！就是爸爸妈妈真的有一天要乘鹤西去了，我们流的眼泪里也 没有遗憾可言了！

天地重孝孝当先，
一个孝字全家安,
为人需当孝父母。

孝敬父母如敬天：我们应该感到庆幸，我们还有父母可以去孝顺！可是我们并不珍惜！其实，我只是想，老人已年 近7-8旬，究竟还能有多少个春秋？别让日后自己徒增遗憾，落泪以视悲哀！常言道”为国尽忠，在家尽孝。””孝尽 父母的事情永远不能等”! 孝心不是用钱能够得到全部表达的. 他们要那么多的钱干什么? 他们吃不了多少, 穿衣也用不了多少, 更不是在这种时候你还自鸣得意的认为老人是欠了我们的, 甚至为此而和老人怄气! 父母所缺的应该是与儿孙其乐融融的相处! 他们所缺的是在他难于动身时的一个代步, 在他口渴时的一杯茶水, 在他寂寞时候的陪伴, 儿女在外都忙能每周按时聚在一起, 在他们生病时的一次次问候……这些都是老人内心所渴望的!

感恩父母养育情 - “感恩” 你知道这两个字怎么写却不能认识到它的真正含义, 从我们呱呱落地的那一刻起, 我们的生命就倾注了父母无尽的爱与祝福, 为我们撑起了一片爱的天空, 或许, 父母不能给我们奢华的生活, 但是, 他们给予了一个人一生中不可替代的——生命！

此时我想说，感恩是应该是发自内心的, 每个人都能够做到，却又不愿去做.

试问：“你们的感恩在哪里？”俗话说“滴水之恩，当涌泉相报”. 更何况父母亲为我们付出的不仅仅是“一滴水”, 而是一片汪洋大海.

是否在父母劳累后递上一杯暖茶？ 在他们失落时奉上一番问候与安慰？ 是否为他们打扫过一间房？

父母往往为我们倾注了心血, 精力, 而我们又何曾体会他们的劳累, 又是否察觉到那缕缕银丝, 那一丝丝皱纹.

感恩需要你用心去体会，去报答. 其实，对爸爸妈妈的孝心和感恩, 不是只在母亲节和 父亲节的时候, 感恩父母, 哪怕是一件微不足道的事, 只要能让他们感到欣慰, 这就够了. 这样的事, 我们每一天去做了一点也不难, 你说是吧？

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Originally Posted by K9696

.....家破人亡! 十赌九输,赌徒通常没有好的下场

Thanks, Bro K9696

[K9696]

Originally Posted by Ichigo_Kurosaki

当我们静下心来好好的想一想时, 对爸爸妈妈的孝心,, 其实不就是在我们平时的“滋润”中完成的吗?

天下第一情是父母之情，因为爸爸妈妈太容易满足了！就是爸爸妈妈真的有一天要乘鹤西去了，我们流的眼泪里也 没有遗憾可言了！

天地重孝孝当先，
一个孝字全家安,
为人需当孝父母。

感恩父母养育情 - “感恩” 你知道这两个字怎么写却不能认识到它的真正含义, 从我们呱呱落地的那一刻起, 我们的生命就倾注了父母无尽的爱与祝福, 为我们撑起了一片爱的天空, 或许, 父母不能给我们奢华的生活, 但是, 他们给予了一个人一生中不可替代的——生命！

此时我想说，感恩是应该是发自内心的, 每个人都能够做到，却又不愿去做.

试问：“你们的感恩在哪里？”俗话说“滴水之恩，当涌泉相报”. 更何况父母亲为我们付出的不仅仅是“一滴水”, 而是一片汪洋大海.

感恩需要你用心去体会，去报答. 其实，对爸爸妈妈的孝心和感恩, 不是只在母亲节和 父亲节的时候, 感恩父母, 哪怕是一件微不足道的事, 只要能让他们感到欣慰, 这就够了. 这样的事, 我们每一天去做了一点也不难, 你说是吧？

bro.. like your message..
父母恩情深似海......
even the bible also tell us to honour our parents.....

[K9696]

Originally Posted by Ichigo_Kurosaki

当我们静下心来好好的想一想时, 对爸爸妈妈的孝心,, 其实不就是在我们平时的“滋润”中完成的吗?

天下第一情是父母之情，因为爸爸妈妈太容易满足了！就是爸爸妈妈真的有一天要乘鹤西去了，我们流的眼泪里也 没有遗憾可言了！

天地重孝孝当先，
一个孝字全家安,
为人需当孝父母。

感恩父母养育情 - “感恩” 你知道这两个字怎么写却不能认识到它的真正含义, 从我们呱呱落地的那一刻起, 我们的生命就倾注了父母无尽的爱与祝福, 为我们撑起了一片爱的天空, 或许, 父母不能给我们奢华的生活, 但是, 他们给予了一个人一生中不可替代的——生命！

此时我想说，感恩是应该是发自内心的, 每个人都能够做到，却又不愿去做.

试问：“你们的感恩在哪里？”俗话说“滴水之恩，当涌泉相报”. 更何况父母亲为我们付出的不仅仅是“一滴水”, 而是一片汪洋大海.

感恩需要你用心去体会，去报答. 其实，对爸爸妈妈的孝心和感恩, 不是只在母亲节和 父亲节的时候, 感恩父母, 哪怕是一件微不足道的事, 只要能让他们感到欣慰, 这就够了. 这样的事, 我们每一天去做了一点也不难, 你说是吧？

bro.. agreed with your message..
父母恩情深似海......
even the bible also tell us to honour our parents.....

[yachidino]

Hi bro motar and Xyman, no need to worry so much, life still has to going on. Try to get some moonlight job and other thing to upgrade yourself. Who know some day you are somebody. PM me for some coffee chit-chat. Thank

[goodpartner]

Bro TS, what you have are youth and the hunger.

You should keep your present job but spend the rest of your off-hours on another occupation that does NOT pay by the hours, but one that can make you exponential income given some luck, determination and street-smartness.

For example, be a part-time housing agent. Pay the small fee, attend the lessons, and join a good agency and get a good coach. Heck, if you succeed in just ONE deal, even if it's commission from room rental, you earn a few hundred dollars and that's significant for you. As you get better, geting a few thousand per deal is not uncommon, and that's like a few times your day-job income. Not to mention those deals that make you tens of thousands per deal. It's like years of income compare to your day-job.

Once you're stablises and gained the confidence, quit your day job. Invest your money in good stocks, properties, etc. where money grows money. Re-invest some more. The first 100K is hardest for you, double it to $200K, double it again $400K and reach $1m, which may take you a few years (but remember you're young), then from there, it's no longer exchanging hours for money...

You can do it, because you seems to have the drive (hunger) too.

Once you're a millionaire (or anyone reading this), remember to PM me as by then I'll be an old uncle who may need your help to treat me to a few free high-class bonks

Good Luck.

[mortar]

Thank you bros for such wonderful replies. After spending a good 10mins+ reading all the replies, I have to say.. my thinking are not that mature yet but after reading those replies, I feel more motivated and blissed.

Although money isn't easy to come by, so are wonderful families! not to forget youth.

Ichigo bro, I have to admit your post has really knock the sense out of me, how the hell can I think of my family as a burden?! I still remember when I was young, my dad will bring me to different places to makan as well as driving around orchard road to see lights during festive season. I still remember when I was around 5~6 last time, before my dad went to work, I asked for you and guess what? at that same night, my dad actually bought me a lego set. Although I dunno what is call parents love at that time, now I beginning to understand what I meant to them.. Their love is really incomparable.

感恩.. not all people can do that, or even understand the meaning. They only take and don't give. No matter what, we must remember this quote: shi qu le cai dong de zhen gui(can anyone type this into mandarin? lol)

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Originally Posted by mortar

...... No matter what, we must remember this quote: shi qu le cai dong de zhen gui(can anyone type this into mandarin? lol)

失去了才懂的珍贵

note: the above is only for this thread, not for the 2 exs I met earlier tonight

[see see only]

Originally Posted by mortar

Over the months i have been thinking about my future..

Bro mortar ... thinking of future ???

Think


People make $$$ for solving other people problems ... so look around for problems everywhere, come out with all kind of solutions that you can think of. Observe how others solve the so-called problems and look at the outcome or results ... good or not good ---- remember it.

Over a period of time, you will be a person with solution for all kind of situations ...

Finally you will never know when your so-called solution could actually exchange for a better life

Wish you luck mate ...

[EtherC]

If I were you, I'll do something about that leeching sister. There is absolutely no excuse for her to be leeching unless shes severely handicapped. Even blind people have jobs. Ask her to manage her expectations and support herself.

Mortar you need to start thinking whether you really need further studies. If you're simply studying for a degree so as to get a job: Life as a white collar slave is'nt fun. And when the majority of the population have become white collar slaves it is the tradesmen who will become scare and hence their services become more valuable.

Quite a few garang guni are driving Mercedes and BMWs. Also there's a number of ITE graduates earning good money by running car servicing businesses. And there are primary school educated aunties that earn over 100k a month running hawker stalls.

There are many paths for different people with different skills. Look at your own and think about it. The well travelled path may be safe but it may not be as rewarding. You're still at an age where you can take risks.

[jimboy_203]

I started off with only S$1600 with a US degree back in 96. After my cpf i took back only around 1250, i think. Life was not easy when suddenly my parent cuts off my pocket money and i have to live on my own. But i have persevere long enough in my industry for 14 years now and my salary now is a humble 11k. i am in late 30s now and saying 11k is enough depends really what kind of life style i want. believe me, i ration my tight pocket money given by my wife of 250 per month for my lunch and coffee breaks. The rest is kept by my wife. ( sound a bit like chow ren fatt wife controlling his money but no where near him). When i am new in my industry, i have always come across many of the old bird in my industry getting the sales. i lose out to them. but my wife encouragement well prepares me. She says " you are new bird, one day 10 years later, you will be like an old bird like them" true enough, i see myself progressing up the 10 k ladder by sticking in my industry long enough. Today , i can say my 14 years of long service to my comapny pays off. i did not job hop like many of others do. i stick to boss who is a typical chinese helicopter who knows nothing about sales... . so TS find an industry you like most and stay in there, boss now stupid, you will get your reward in due time when u r approaching 40. Then of course , you shouldnt be staying in an industry that have no future being a security guard or be a cisco guard for a bank. you have no future for sure. However many people who agree with me that lady luck must be with yousometimes or some "gu ren" willing to give u a helping hand. without some luck u can work your ass off and still be poor. Just my 2 cents opinion

[leaseoflife]

Never, ever think that your family is a burden. Everything, everyone can desert you, but never the family. Think back on what they have done for you, because no matter how successful one can be, it is what they gave us first.

Sorry to sound like a pathetic ass, but no matter how much I cheong, family will always come first.

[homeboy2010]

Originally Posted by leaseoflife

Never, ever think that your family is a burden. Everything, everyone can desert you, but never the family. Think back on what they have done for you, because no matter how successful one can be, it is what they gave us first.

Sorry to sound like a pathetic ass, but no matter how much I cheong, family will always come first.

our bro here is right

no matter how, it's only the family that will be by your side
when you are in troubles

friends can only give support

[trueno2008]

Hi TS,

I want to say this, not all parents are wonderful as we all know. But based on your description, your parents look decent and loving which i think they are the best ppl in your life. Maybe now you can't understand but one day when you become a parent and a responsible one too, then you will understand what i meant. They are the ones who will stick with you till the end of their lives. Do what you can for them, for your own sake and also for the sake of your children next time. Like what some bros say, even if you have lots of money but you got no close ones to share with you, it's meaningless... You still young really, income will improve as your mindset improves.

Cheers

[garlic]

Bro TS, these material things only seem important to you when younger, when you are older, the only thing that matters is health. Do not get yourself too stressed up over the "good life" your friends are having, you do not need it. What you need are your strong family ties and your good health.

In another 10 years time, you will be laughing at yourself to be so depressed now over these immaterial material goods. Almost all guys go through this phase as the desire for female attraction is strong and hence lead to such strong "wants" to look good. Trust me, you only need your good health in life and a positive mind set.