What's an acceptable age gap for a man and woman?

Haha, at 50 and 60 still going for SYT ... haha, thats the power of $

[tiongkoklan]

Thanks to all the brothers for their kind words – paiseh paiseh lah – me just another normal guy and definitely not a model citizen for what the gahmen is promoting. I actually have it rather easy since I never wanted a child, so I never got married. And it allows me to have a lifestyle some of my married friends told me they are envious of. As many of you said, as long as one is happy – that’s what matters. But I will just share some of my own experience in maintaining my relationship with girlfriends in their 20s with my increasing age.

I have my share of commercial and non-commercial relationships. For commercial sex, it is straight-forward – just $ transaction and I do not get into the KC issue. After all, there are so many MMs and SYTs that I want to bonk – so I stay focused on the proverbial forest and not the tree. I know it sounds mercenary; these MMs/SYTs are just statistics – some better bonks than others – that’s about it.

But for non-commercial relationship, it is more tricky – still need to “pay” in kind although they do not demand it. Some even get upset when I asked them to buy gifts for themselves – like giving them cash in local currencies when we go on holidays. Interestingly, some will go all out to show that they are not with me for the $$ - but I will always make sure I “pay” in kinds like holidays, spa sessions, etc. And of course, there are others who show tell-tale signs of “money-fetish” and that’s when I need to do my disappearing act – fast! Luckily, my jobs require frequent travel around the region and I can just get lost easily.

And to be fair, I always make sure from Day-1 that they know I am not looking for a wife and that they should have other boyfriends. And I will make sure they know I have other girlfriends – so, it’s a relationship based on “mutual respect” for lack of appropriate words. I don’t get jealous and often become their counselor when they have problem with their other boyfriends. And for some of them, including two in Singapore, I actually became good friend to their other half when they got married. Of course I never talked about the past and our relationship then became one of platonic relationship. That’s where I draw my line – my “conservative values” (you may laugh at this) tell me there should be no more intimate relationship after marriage. As for others, I will just savor the good memories – although I did make a big mistake last year when I agreed to meet an old flame from Australia whom I have not seen for almost 15 years and found out she has almost double her physical size since I last saw her. You can imagine what a shattering experience that was.

Many of them have told me reasons they like going out with men much older than them, including the older men tend to be more matured, more “gentlemen,” and can talk about “interesting” things that their younger friends have no clue about. And for us who traveled a lot in the line of work, we have stories that often fascinate. However, I do not assume I know it all just because I am older. In fact, I find it fun to learn from them too – e.g. I remember when one SYT in Beijing explained to me what “PK” and being “牛” mean. And another taught me much of my IT skill when she found out how technically-challenged I was.

And many turned out to be good “learners” too – especially in the lovemaking department since most of us in older age do not rush like the younger hunks, and probably more patience in sharing our “knowledge” hahaha! I never ceased to be amazed how little variations of lovemaking some of these SYTs have been exposed, and I even have some confessed they didn’t know bonking can be so much fun! I like to tell them I am training them to be a good wife to their future husbands.

I also try not to exhibit too much affection in public. That’s because I am aware of the social hang-ups since many locals of places where we are may not approve of such relationship, and I do not want my g/f to feel “bad” due to unnecessary stares even though I don’t give a toot about what other think. But I must respect what the disapproving glares might impact my SYTs - it’s just my way of telling them I do care.

Another issue is the practice of safe sex to make sure I do not give unnecessary “souvenirs” even though some said they prefer to go raw. But I reminded them I have other relationships and it won’t be fair (but in fact I am too scared shit about becoming a father especially at my current age!!!) – that’s also my subtle reminder that I won’t be around forever – I need to look for other SYTs in their 20s！

And of course, it helps that I can provide more materialistic comforts too – one was tickled when we flew business class since it was the first time for her, and they never argued about staying in nice hotels when we travel. Oh well, we only live once and life is short! 开心就好!

[aces68]

bro tiongkoklan,
you have an interesting lifestyle which I think many bros envy too..but the thing that puzzles me is how do you manage to pick up these SYTs (especially the non-FL type) ? Is it from the industry that you work in ? or are you picking them up from bars / pubs ?

Just curious, do share if you don't mind.. i think we can all learn something from you

[lao_teeko]

yah lor...i also want!

or TS happens to look like simon yam? andy lau?


anyway...if its for fun..i dont think age matters...

but if its for settling down..i guess my tolerance is +/- 5 years old..

anything more than that..i would feel a bit funny..cos the cartoons we watch also different liao..haha..

but then again...love is blind..if TRUE love exist between 2 parties..age is seriously no object..

[wodemama]

Originally Posted by MelbSJ

Hats off to you!! 55 yo and still going strong

No need bother bout what others say la.. as long as you r enjoying urselg, ur bound to attract stares
As far as i know, i have a few 20s girl friends who told me that they prefer older man, as in in their 40s and 50s... coz they r more matured and of coz got more $$ than a typical 20s ah beng

cheers and gd luck with ur girls!

Same here, girls tend to look for security and if you can provide it why not?

[kiko]

I believe acceptable age for men is 25-35 going for SYT. but above 35 should look out for more mature woman 28 and above.

[lacoruna69]

Originally Posted by tiongkoklan

Oh well, we only live once and life is short! 开心就好!

Yup, that sums it up! Me in my 30s and I like SYTs too. Being with them makes me feel younger......

[911GT3Cup]

Originally Posted by tiongkoklan

Not sure if this is the right place to raise this issue even though it does concern an aspect of the matters of heart.
...
When I was 20yo, I dated 20yo;
When I was 30yo, I dated girls in their 20s;
When I was 40yo, I dated girls in their 20s;
When I was 50yo, I dated girls in their 20s; and now
I am 55yo, I am still dating girls in their 20s! And I am not talking about ktv or bar girls.
...

u r my idol! i dont have to date no more but then if i were single, i will probably be like u. but first my wallet must be quite filled hahaha

[peanut123]

Originally Posted by tiongkoklan

When I was 20yo, I dated 20yo;
When I was 30yo, I dated girls in their 20s;
When I was 40yo, I dated girls in their 20s;
When I was 50yo, I dated girls in their 20s; and now
I am 55yo, I am still dating girls in their 20s! And I am not talking about ktv or bar girls.

And I do get more stares in places like Singapore....

Those are stares of ENVY. I'm sure all bros reading your post also envy you.

[Neighbour]

Originally Posted by peanut123

Those are stares of ENVY. I'm sure all bros reading your post also envy you.

Agree....

For my uncle & his wife, the age difference is 20 yo.
And they are happily married till today but unknown about tomoro,hehe

[wodemama]

I feel that age should not be a factor. But to reply your qns i feel 5 yrs or less is the best.

[cheongsan]

With due respect to all brothers here, personally I don't think there is anything to envy from having the plentiful opportunities to go out with SYTs.

I have gone out with Chinese women who are as young as 20 and our age gap isabout 20 years apart but much as these young girls always assured me, I know that's because I am a Singaporean and am relatively generous. Some even claim that I look handsome and mistaken that I as as young as them. Honestly, I am not convinced.

As my job requires me to travel very widely in China, I have no lack of opportunity to meet Chinese women. But I must say our Singapore government have done a wonderful job in promoting Singapore well to the Chinese in China. Whenever these Chinese women know that I am from Singapore, many would throw themselves at me. It doesn't need much money, just the willingness to buy them a drink. But again, I know that is because I am a Singapore man, and not because of my looks, personality or age.

Again, this is based only on my extensive experience in China so it is only my personal opinion.

Hope you guys share the same good fortune of meeting plentiful SYTs like I do.

[saleman]

6-9 a perfect age as most man life span shorter than woman

[Enzo]

there was a study that was done quite some time back and the results shown were that men are most happy when their spouse is someone 10 yrs younger than them. On the other hand, for women, they are most happy when their spouse is 6 years older than them.

[dnagene_gal]

Originally Posted by tiongkoklan

As for me,
When I was 20yo, I dated 20yo;
When I was 30yo, I dated girls in their 20s;
When I was 40yo, I dated girls in their 20s;
When I was 50yo, I dated girls in their 20s; and now
I am 55yo, I am still dating girls in their 20s! And I am not talking about ktv or bar girls.

This reminds of something I came across:

At 8 - You take her to bed
and tell her a story.


At 18 - You tell her a story
and take her to bed.

At 28 - You don't need to tell her a story
to take her to bed.

At 38 - She tells you a story
and takes you to bed.

At 48 - You tell her a story
to avoid going to bed.

At 58 - You stay in bed
to avoid her story.

At 68 - If you take her to bed,
that'll be a story!!