fall for colleague!!!

[prettymannequin]

Eh buddy you seriously thought of quitting your job for a woman? Don't impulsive leh lol.

Just keep your distance ba.

[fishing around]

do not shit and eat at the same place.
personally experienced it before and burnt myself badly.

not worth it.

[johnthiomas]

Bro,

I had a bad experience before being helplessly infatuated with a 20-year old new colleague in my previous office.

All I can remember now is that I lost all my friends & colleagues in that Company & finally lost my position and finally i quit the job to save myself from further embarrassment. not worth it.

Fucking hell, I'm not even married or attached at that time.

Jealousy was my downfall..you can't work properly if you're emotionally attached to someone sitting in the next room/dept..not to mention the sickening advances from other male species within the environment. If she keeps you hanging without an answer after you've expressed your feelings, you have to face up to the anguish of unresolved emotion every fuckin day at work and it is impossible to think straight & concentrate.

My advice is to avoid at all cost.

[Ahxi]

depends on 1 way or 2 way mah.

If 2 way and not just simply infatuation, I dun see an issue with a divorce.

[nextview]

always remember some gals are bitches, that cannot be changed

[demonhunter]

The aftermath is always a disaster , but nothing beats the thrill of having an office affair ..

The dirty look you guys exchanging in office and then looking out wondering someone saw you .

The office toilet quickie , the dirty SMS exchanges ...and so on ....

[WRX_STI]

the original cardinal sin

[Parkerlon]

Yes it's dangerous look at me now I quit my job coz cannot work anymore

[lucian90]

lots of repercussions to consider man

[arsenal_84]

sorry to bump up the thread...

well they always say SYT stirs the heart strings...
now i'm beginning to experience it myself.
never thought that it could happen to me as i'm mostly non enchanted by girls in the previous companies i worked for.

a bit hard to be not distracted by her during work especially when she is in my section and she had eyes exactly like my ex.
my cup of tea but way too young (1992) while i'm already in my early 30s.
haiz

[Boinkboinkboink]

Do not fall for WL/ML/KTV gals, now do not fall for colleague...

Wah, never a dull moment here.

[Driftwood]

Originally Posted by arsenal_84

sorry to bump up the thread...

well they always say SYT stirs the heart strings...
now i'm beginning to experience it myself.
never thought that it could happen to me as i'm mostly non enchanted by girls in the previous company i worked for.

a bit hard to be not distracted by her during work especially when she is in my section and she had eyes exactly like my ex.
my cup of tea but way too young (1992) while i'm already in my early 30s.
haiz

Seen a couple of couples who met at work and successfully made it out of the company and are still together or married. Personally, if it's really love (and fondness) for each other, I think it should be able to work. After all, at the end of the day, both or either one party might not stay in the place, especially if we are still mobile. Management plays a part too. I can't comment about the jealousy part, but I do admit that there's a certain amount of distraction (cause currently, I'm in a crush at work too ). The only way is to clear your mind, and focus (easier said than done). I mean, you can worry all you want, but if shit happens, face and solve it if possible. If not, there's always SBF.

I can't comment too much on what bros here went thru that resulted in bad endings. Think about it, we are living such busy lives with little or no social time. Work is one of those places where we might get to meet someone. Of course, you can rebutt me by saying, joining the marriage agency or some dating sites or activities. Yea, we could. But from what I heard, rumors are most are chui type or they have unrealistic expectations, among the many.

Same sentence, don't think too much, enjoy the ride while it lasts.

[arsenal_84]

Originally Posted by Driftwood

Same sentence, don't think too much, enjoy the ride while it lasts.

thanks for the tips.
well been trying not to think much though i can tell that the guy beside her, seems interested in her.
he kinda keep asking her out for lunch daily with his own group, so had to take some defensive actions to prevent her from joining another lunch group.

the nick sounds familiar, you travis fan too ?

[Driftwood]

Originally Posted by arsenal_84

thanks for the tips.
well been trying not to think much though i can tell that the guy beside her, seems interested in her.
he kinda keep asking her out for lunch daily with his own group, so had to take some defensive actions to prevent her from joining another lunch group.

Didn't give much tips bro, just telling you to take things easy cause I'm in the same boat as you!

Guess it's normal to feel this way. Even I felt the same way too sometimes.But you got to tell yourself, this is part and parcel of falling for someone (or having a crush, in my case). You can't and don't expect her to treat you the same way as you are to her. In addition, if and when you do something for her, never expect any gratitude or return. This is because you did it willingly for her. This is what I tell myself time and again. Of course, as a loser, I would further console myself by saying, if it doesn't hurt anyone, why should I bother? Haha

Anyway, have you tried sounding her out? Like asking her out one for one first then perhaps an after work drink? Have you been talking to her daily? These little actions might help you decide if she's reciprocating you and your feelings. In any case, good luck!

[arsenal_84]

Originally Posted by Driftwood

Anyway, have you tried sounding her out? Like asking her out one for one first then perhaps an after work drink? Have you been talking to her daily? These little actions might help you decide if she's reciprocating you and your feelings. In any case, good luck!

well i did ask her out for lunch with my current group, surprisingly she asked me as well after i approached her first, not sure if is out of courtesy sake.
anyway she's only been working for 2 weeks so i try not to make it look too obvious that i'm interested in her.

daily chat topics so far has been mostly about work but she seems to have some interest in investing like i do.
have not been able to get her to open up a wider range of chat topics unlike the colleague beside her.

i'm also well aware that if i don't step up my efforts, might end up losing her.
is just that i'm too preoccupied with my current workload to really pay her much attention cause i only just joined the company 1 month ago.
there are some process or procedures that i'm not aware of, so need to brush up my own knowledge first before teaching her more on my dept job scope.