Husband loves surfing porn

[ingzi]

I know its common man do surf porn but i get upset knowing my that my man do that. Its really makes my confidence go all low knowing he always surfs porn..😭😭

Now makes me think if he eats out too.

Whenever we have an arguement, things turn ugly and he doesnt seem to care how i feel or where i have gone..or if anything will happen to me..

10 years of marriage really makes me feel so heartache. Its likei have wasted 10 yrs of my life.

He is not a romantic or sensitive guy. I need a guy who cares and loves me thru action not thru nags. We talked abt these thruout the 10 yrs but as the yrs go, i feel more n more empty and frustrated. Many a times i really cannot stand his nags. He can be unreasonable and bad temper but i cant. When i do, he hurls really nasty words on me.

In case you think we are not doing enough bedroom activities, i would think not. Sometimes i would initiate but he says he is too tired.

I really feel very sad when i know he surfed porn and searched for escort contacts (he said he was curious only) and have tot of divorce b4 but i guess i still love him hence im still stuck in this circle.

I really dunno how to trust him fully. N how to think open not to be bogged down by his porn surfing activity.😭😭

[Tazbatim78]

Hi Sis,
Ever try joining him to watch? Find out what he like?

Maybe that help..

[Tazbatim78]

Hi sis,
Ever try joining him to watch n surf?
To find out what he like...
Maybe that will help..

[conquer]

All men surf porn and once in a while go call chicken, regardless how attractive or unattractive you are.

All you can do is to treat him nicer, don't always kaobeh him, cook him delicious food, tell him interesting stories, complement him... he will surf porn lesser and go call chicken lesser.

[Fat Fatt]

Originally Posted by conquer

All men surf porn and once in a while go call chicken, regardless how attractive or unattractive you are.

All you can do is to treat him nicer, don't always kaobeh him, cook him delicious food, tell him interesting stories, complement him... he will surf porn lesser and go call chicken lesser.

It’s a modern world
You can always have your friends interest hobbies and even flings , paid or unpaid
You have your right to big Os too
He will notice and maybe pay more attention instead

[thaixrice]

Maybe can consider going counselling together. I think this might help?

[FUNNYANDHORNY]

which porn site he surf?....

[bloggert]

Quite apart from your husband's activities, I think the first thing is to work on your own self-esteem and happiness. I've seen many cases where women look to their husbands as the key to their happiness - ie. if the husbands do this, they're happy, if the husband does not do that, they become sad. Anchoring your happiness on another person is a sure route to disappointment. Learning to be happy in yourself is the first thing to becoming a successful person because you are ultimately an independent human being.

Secondly, if you have found your own happiness, you become a much better partner too and people will want things from you. You may even discover that your husband could change his attitude as a result of you finding your own happiness.

In order to do that, you will have to look into yourself and start doing things for yourself. Don't worry so much about what your husband does or does not do for you. He probably loves you, maybe not in the way you want him to love you. The truth is many local guys don't fit your Hollywood styled suave romantic lover but that doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Like I said above, be responsible for your own happiness. I've never seen a case where people coerce the other person successfully to make them happy.

You are responsible for your own happiness. Don't pin that on anyone else. After that, maybe work constructively towards realistic expectations of what is truly important. Men, too, need time to grow - but such opportunities don't always come for them. Good communications can help in this regard. It's a little counter-intuitive but perhaps you may want to find out what it is that your husband really thinks and likes (and be prepared that these are things that you may not like). The ability to accept and change cuts both ways. If you want your husband to change, I guess the question is how much are you also prepared to change.

Once again, we get so much of the Western bullshit about "if he can't love me the way I am, he doesn't deserve me." The truth is we all change all the time, in order to get to a better place. So work on that, be a better person - for yourself, and not in order to try to negotiate something from your husband. Work on your self-esteem and on whatever baggages you might have.

Also, why is it that men surf porn? It's mainly to fill some emptiness (could be boredom or some other sexual frustration.) Porn is a kind of proxy to real life, a fantasy if you like. It does not mean they don't like you but it could very well mean they're not getting something they want from you. It may be something you are not yet able to give (eg. a confident, strong, smart, sexy woman) but I think it is something women can be. At the risk of generalisation, what men see in porn is the fantasy woman who knows what she wants, who isn't afraid to be sexy, who is beautiful and enjoys sex, who is smart. Of course, there are also men who are into all kinds of fetishes but those are generally things you don't have to worry about because they're usually so far out that it's pure fantasy.

There's too much to write, but hopefully this gives you some ideas.

[conquer]

Originally Posted by FUNNYANDHORNY

which porn site he surf?....

He must be surfing the notorious sammyboyforum.

[priceteck]

Originally Posted by conquer

He must be surfing the notorious sammyboyforum.

Then the wife also surfing here. Hmm.

[Mrwoody]

Try to have a heart to heart talk with him to understand why this is happening. Once he has given you the reason, you two can discussion and work out a solution. Does he enjoy when having sex with you? When a man is stressed at work, he may find that the easiest way out to release stress is to PCC rather than to feel stress to perform in sex with wife. this is what i think could possibly happen but i maybe wrong ao talk talk talk with him.

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by ingzi

I really dunno how to trust him fully. N how to think open not to be bogged down by his porn surfing activity.����

The reality of marriage life.... Most couples lose their passion after a few yrs together. If u go out with another man, he will have sex with u, almost every night or every moment but after weeks or months, he will give u the same excuse... he is tired. He also want his own personal life.

Get yourself a life and not just live for your husband. It will be healthier for u to ask the same question in another forum instead of SBF... Most men here surf porn, looking for contacts, looking for fun and mainly sex.

[ingzi]

Originally Posted by Mrwoody

Try to have a heart to heart talk with him to understand why this is happening. Once he has given you the reason, you two can discussion and work out a solution. Does he enjoy when having sex with you? When a man is stressed at work, he may find that the easiest way out to release stress is to PCC rather than to feel stress to perform in sex with wife. this is what i think could possibly happen but i maybe wrong ao talk talk talk with him.

Problem is he doesnt want to talk whenever we face problems or unhappiness. All he does is avoid. Always hoping things will be swept under the carpet and be ok.

Maybe some of you are right. I need to find my own happiness and learn to let go of the unhappiness and void i feel with him. If he refuse to acknowledge and try to work on our marriage, i alone cant do much.

[jwat]

I bet your inbox now full . Do you want to try take out?

[Stylec4444]

Whatever it is don't try something on the side. If wanna end it then end it properly then only....