fall for colleague!!!

[arsenal_84]

Originally Posted by Driftwood

but having a crush on her actually brought a new lease of confidence in me. Something which I have been missing for some time.

i do agreed it does have some motivational elements when you have someone you fancy.

for example, i have restarted my fitness regime in order to maintain weight and restore my slightly unhealthy bmi into the healthy range.
and i also don't like the idea being out pace in futsal games with the younger generation.

[Beachsea]

Originally Posted by arsenal_84

i do agreed it does have some motivational elements when you have someone you fancy.

for example, i have restarted my fitness regime in order to maintain weight and restore my slightly unhealthy bmi into the healthy range.
and i also don't like the idea being out pace in futsal games with the younger generation.

Dude ... if u are 84.. we are in the same age range...
Be reminded, u are at the golden age...comming to peak soon!!

dont waste it

[arsenal_84]

Originally Posted by Beachsea

Dude ... if u are 84.. we are in the same age range...
Be reminded, u are at the golden age...comming to peak soon!!

dont waste it

yup born in 84, few weeks has pass and not really making any progress.
she's a good colleague (helpful & fast learner) and would prefer not to mess up the work chemistry at the moment.
can concentrate on work better now with the weird feelings subsiding.

thing is i'm currently attached to a thai lady so guess is always good to have a back up plan and she is at least of closer age range to me.
felt happy whenever i chat with her on fb messenger.

[nspgav]

Originally Posted by jakelkh5

not married, hr or fin but i am married...

now only on surface only ... hope am able to pull myself together and get out....

Family comes first don't make your life and people around you miserable. I been through a dark phase in my life before. Moreover is your work place. This is your rice bowl don't break it.

[eroticbomb]

Originally Posted by jakelkh5

dangerous game but dont know how to get out... any advise?

whats your background, really depends on that

[Botakhead]

Office romance is like a battle field, got many hidden mines waiting to explode and destroy you, tread on carefully.

Those who are married and find new love during work, these are not really love, it is replacement for what you think is void back home with your partner.

Have you considered your partners feelings when you play the office romance games? What happened in your married life that led you to find romance/love in the office?

2 lost in love people will proceed blindly together, thinking that you are made for each other and taste the forbidden fruit, there are consequences to think about. Both rice bowl might be threatened if found out or if either one backs out of the r/s. Someone will definitely get hurt more than the other, and not only the 2 persons but the family, friends and relatives may also be hurt in the end.

[joncheong]

she is single while you are attached to a thai lady...

experienced before married guy made married female colleague pregnant...how about that...the consequences are messy and ugly trust me...

[arsenal_84]

Had to break up with the thai lady due to some complication.

Is been 4 months into the new job and seems like I'm more interested in changing job than trying to get into a rs.

Tbh I have no idea whether she is single or attached as my gut feeling tells me she is attached, until somebody else find out the answer, I probably will keep a distance at the moment.
She is a nice lady to talk to with a range of topics (given her young age) but probably a social butterfly who is still fishing at the moment.

[sepp]

She is probably wondering about the same thing as you... Thinking if she should get hitched or not. Oh well, this is life isn't it...

[Curiouskrap]

If she is that kind of fuck and forget I think no issue. I did b4 it's my best fren and she's having some issue with relationship. We both mingle too frequent and the next thing I know we are kissing each other and it's just so relaxing .

[arsenal_84]

Originally Posted by sepp

She is probably wondering about the same thing as you... Thinking if she should get hitched or not. Oh well, this is life isn't it...

my auntie colleague confirmed she is attached...oh well i'm not the kind who believes in "attached can break up" kind.
though it did happen to my own sis before in her rs, nobody likes to be the 3rd party in such cases.

nice to have her as a hardworking colleague who is willing to take on more crap than me as her pay is probably more than me due to the segregation of our degrees.
while she is interested to learn more and take up more workload, i guess she doesn't really know where her breaking point is.

[Ernnie]

Actually office romance need not be a minefield. It depends on the company's culture. In my company, work spouses are pretty common, there are also pairs that are obviously sticky to each other. This is despite either or both sides are married/attached. I ever saw this married lady resting her chin on her work-boyfriend's arm during a training session when she was explaining things on his laptop. It was a round table where everyone can see each other.
Also every time there is a project or meeting overseas, it is also common sight that I see some married/attached guys openly hitting on the prettier girls.

But of course, everyone being adult already must really be steady and watch our own actions. Don't do silly things like impregnating the girl or abandoning your own wife/family or being overly emotional about the office romance.

[thor1981]

This is an interesting question, and nice to read the different perspectives. Generally is a mine field, but if you understand the woman's status, it can be easier. Here is what i have learned from personal experience and speaking to other bros:

1. Early 20s / new recruit. Absolute No-No. These are the most tempting, the SYT, and in my industry's, chiobus with artsy background looking to impress their new colleagues. But it's a no-no because they are initially very flattered by the attention, but not mature enough to separate 'work' from emotion. Can lead to awkward moments in the office - Boss' can also pick up on their cues, when the girls are speaking to you, even if you can be discreet. Also gets very awkward if they are assigned to your team and they are 'all looks no brains'

2. Wife of a colleague - easier than #1, but still a no-no (for some obvious reasons). My company (US-based) had big parties for Christmas, July 4th and CNY. Spouses often attend these boozy events and may confess being bored at home while hubby is on travel (lots of travel in my industry, marketing) ... again tempting, because they are more mature and can be discreet. A bro i knew (bit of a cheong star) was pounding a colleague's wife for about a year, but had to stop when he was transferred overseas (not related to the affair). He would meet her because he knew exactly when hubby was overseas

3. A married woman looking to cheat.. usually the easiest, because meet-ups can be done through work or on work trips. Hubby is boring, neglectful or himself has cheated, and while everything is professional at work, work trips where hotel rooms are involved, can make things fun. But when at home hq, no flirting and everything is professional. You also develop agreements for why you are meeting, in case people see you together out of office.

4. Foreign posting - usually sent from another country office for a 3 month project or experience. Easiest and most fun - start by showing her a good time around your city, give her a cock to enjoy while she is on her 'exotic' foreign assignment, with both knowing it will end at a certain date.

These are what i have seen to date. hope they help bro. g ood luck!

[Ernnie]

Originally Posted by thor1981

Generally is a mine field, but if you understand the woman's status, it can be easier. Here is what i have learned from personal experience and speaking to other bros:

1. Early 20s / new recruit. Absolute No-No. These are the most tempting, the SYT, and in my industry's, chiobus with artsy background looking to impress their new colleagues. But it's a no-no because they are initially very flattered by the attention, but not mature enough to separate 'work' from emotion. Can lead to awkward moments in the office - Boss' can also pick up on their cues, when the girls are speaking to you, even if you can be discreet. Also gets very awkward if they are assigned to your team and they are 'all looks no brains'

2. Wife of a colleague - easier than #1, but still a no-no (for some obvious reasons). My company (US-based) had big parties for Christmas, July 4th and CNY. Spouses often attend these boozy events and may confess being bored at home while hubby is on travel (lots of travel in my industry, marketing) ... again tempting, because they are more mature and can be discreet. A bro i knew (bit of a cheong star) was pounding a colleague's wife for about a year, but had to stop when he was transferred overseas (not related to the affair). He would meet her because he knew exactly when hubby was overseas

3. A married woman looking to cheat.. usually the easiest, because meet-ups can be done through work or on work trips. Hubby is boring, neglectful or himself has cheated, and while everything is professional at work, work trips where hotel rooms are involved, can make things fun. But when at home hq, no flirting and everything is professional. You also develop agreements for why you are meeting, in case people see you together out of office.

4. Foreign posting - usually sent from another country office for a 3 month project or experience. Easiest and most fun - start by showing her a good time around your city, give her a cock to enjoy while she is on her 'exotic' foreign assignment, with both knowing it will end at a certain date.

Bro Thor1981 is totally experienced in this. I totally agree and had my own observations that are similar to bro as well.

1. Indeed the most dangerous. Unmarried females below 30 are less tactful and can become overly emotional. Then things might turn ugly for all other colleagues to see.

3. The best is when both sides are married and above 30. Both male & female are mature, tactful and in control over themselves. Both are able to maneuver according to the company culture and still maintain a professional image. Also, both sides are able to split easily if circumstances call for it because they are anchored to their own respective families already.

[hugs]

what about divorcee?