Guilty mistake

upset · #1 10-04-2011, 11:43 AM

Hi bro and sis.

I Just need to pen down a incident which I can't share with people around me in real life. I know I will be zap for sure. just need to let it out

I am in my early 20s just Ord not not long. happily attached to my gf 20,student.

we were together for almost a year. yes you can say that we are young and active. we have sex at least 3 times a week for the past almost 1 year together. we always calculated the days thus we do it raw.

everything was fine until last month.
my gf, s, misses her period. and started to feel sick.
yes. she was pregnant.
I was kinda happy. on the other hand feeling sad cos she's still studying.
base on my current income, starting a family isn't a prob. she wishes to keep it too. but she wants to complete her studies.

I was very happy to see the ultra sound of the little life when we were at the gynae.
its just a 1.5 cm. 7w8d old.

very regret to say that we are not keeping it. although it still have not take form yet but It's still a life. i am very sorry.

too bro out there. I am not trying to take my responsibility away.I made a mistake.

please use protection if you are not really for a kid. its a life.

MeiMei5151 · #2 10-04-2011, 03:27 PM

Do you know that there are so many couples out there who are trying so hard to conceive? Your kid (that you don't want) would have been god's gift to any one of these couples.

Today is the last weekend for Ching Ming. Go to any Buddhist temple which has offerings for Ching Ming. There, you will find one section devoted to unborn children like yours. You can easily recognise it as the offerings are milk in milk bottles, sweets & snacks and toys. Suggest you go and say a prayer for the soul of your unborn kid and perform this ritual for him/her during Ching Ming each year. This is the burden and guilt you and your GF will have to bear for the rest of your life. May your repent and prayers be earnest and sincere so that the bad karma arising from your action of aborting a life will not be inflicted on you, your GF and both of your future offsprings. It is really sad when it hits other innocent parties like your future offsprings. Please pray earnestly for salvation and do as much good deeds as you can to atone for your sins.

kpkprivate · #3 10-04-2011, 03:30 PM

Learning from mistake or err is part of life.
Most ppl around do not have the tolerance for ppl to make mistake.
Kudos to you!

Most importantly now is to settle down your gf's feeling. . . and yourself.

Be strong and face whatever it come.
Cheers!

owen10 · #4 10-04-2011, 03:33 PM

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Originally Posted by MeiMei5151

Do you know that there are so many couples out there who are trying so hard to conceive? Your kid (that you don't want) would have been god's gift to any one of these couples.

Today is the last weekend for Ching Ming. Go to any Buddhist temple which has offerings for Ching Ming. There, you will find one section devoted to unborn children like yours. You can easily recognise it as the offerings are milk in milk bottles, sweets & snacks and toys. Suggest you go and say a prayer for the soul of your unborn kid and perform this ritual for him/her during Ching Ming each year. This is the burden and guilt you and your GF will have to bear for the rest of your life. May your repent and prayers be earnest and sincere so that the bad karma arising from your action of aborting a life will not be inflicted on you, your GF and both of your future offsprings. It is really sad when it hits other innocent parties like your future offsprings. Please pray earnestly for salvation and do as much good deeds as you can to atone for your sins.

very well said meimei.

long · #5 10-04-2011, 03:58 PM

also remember to donate a little to your choice of orphanage/s together

upset · #6 10-04-2011, 05:13 PM

thank you sis and bro. I know my mistake. I thought about it. yes many people are trying hard to get a kid. but we decided not to keep it.
I know to you people we are pretty irresponsible. trust me. we talked about it. we even discuss with someone our senior but not parents.

wish us all the best. It's not easy on us too. my gf is having emotional effects too.

liberatte · #7 10-04-2011, 05:45 PM

Don't let the kid go... You'll love fatherhood. I know many of us do.
You've made the mistake, the child did not! Love what you've created bro... just
as you love your WIFE!

Nobody zapped you... :P

nitrogenix · #8 10-04-2011, 05:58 PM

Have you ever thought of why should your unborn child be paying for your own mistakes?

sta1100 · #9 10-04-2011, 06:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by upset

Hi bro and sis.

I Just need to pen down a incident which I can't share with people around me in real life. I know I will be zap for sure. just need to let it out

I am in my early 20s just Ord not not long. happily attached to my gf 20,student.

we were together for almost a year. yes you can say that we are young and active. we have sex at least 3 times a week for the past almost 1 year together. we always calculated the days thus we do it raw.

everything was fine until last month.
my gf, s, misses her period. and started to feel sick.
yes. she was pregnant.
I was kinda happy. on the other hand feeling sad cos she's still studying.
base on my current income, starting a family isn't a prob. she wishes to keep it too. but she wants to complete her studies.

I was very happy to see the ultra sound of the little life when we were at the gynae.
its just a 1.5 cm. 7w8d old.

very regret to say that we are not keeping it. although it still have not take form yet but It's still a life. i am very sorry.

too bro out there. I am not trying to take my responsibility away.I made a mistake.

please use protection if you are not really for a kid. its a life.

Please keep the baby as the other said it other want don't have you soo lucky
and is god give you, as you have mention your income can, so why not, please think over carefully, is a life you are taking away

arsenal_84 · #10 10-04-2011, 07:00 PM

i feel young couples nowadays take abortion too lightly...

if the birth rate doesn't improve, this island will be filled with foreigners in the future.

TKee · #11 10-04-2011, 07:48 PM

Let mistakes be a lesson for the future.

Snuber · #12 10-04-2011, 07:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by upset

very regret to say that we are not keeping it. although it still have not take form yet but It's still a life. i am very sorry.

please use protection if you are not really for a kid. its a life.

My question is "Have you gone through the procedures of extracting the foetus out already?"

If it has not been done, do keep it and put him/her up for adoption for those couples who have been trying hard to conceive unsuccessfully. Who knows by that time, both u and ur gf might change your minds about keeping or putting the child up for adoption as you've mentioned it's a life afterall.

The difference between abortion n murder in such cases is whether it's done inside or outside the body.

Hope you would reconsider your choice as it's God's gift to you as well. This scar can never be erased nor forgotten.

arsenal_84 · #13 10-04-2011, 07:56 PM

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Originally Posted by TKee

Let mistakes be a lesson for the future.

problem is ppl don't learn from their mistakes...just like sg govt

igotfatballs · #14 10-04-2011, 08:03 PM

Up you bro...

ilovesingapore · #15 10-04-2011, 08:11 PM

abortion is intangible loss. abortion is like cutting ingrown nails. the baby is not yet developed, feels no pain. Dun need feel guilty. Life begins when you leave the womb.